Thanks Judi. That’s hard when you have grandkids and your spouse isn’t excited about that fact anymore. I want to SHARE the happy things with my spouse. But you’re right that it’s self preservation. My husband turned 80 last year and I know he’s had a rough time with that. His focus has become more inward and centered around his own mortality. It’s hard, but I try to remember that and cut him some slack for now. It is important though that it doesn’t go on indefinitely. That only leads to withdrawal and depression. So I’ll be expecting him to come to an acceptance eventually (soon) and if not, it would be time for me to push a little bit to get him to engage again. Even perhaps, be willing to enter a brief course of therapy.. it can be such a challenge to be their support when it isn’t given in return. It’s exhausting emotionally. We do our best, but we also have to take care of ourselves and enjoy our lives. Hang in there, and so will I.