These sound all too familiar. I feel after 25 years of marriage we have definitely grown apart. He’s 10 yrs older than me and had never married. He never had children. We got married when he was 56, I was 46 and divorced for 30 years. I raised my daughter myself and got myself through nursing school. This was before I ever met him. I’m just wondering if anyone feels that having children Changes how you relate to your partner? I don’t want to be judgmental but his lack of connection or even interest in connecting with me is almost unbearable when we live under the same roof. So my sense, having gone through his life, never having to care for anybody else, or care about them, has resulted in someone who honestly doesn’t see that they aren’t able to put someone else above their own needs like you have to do when you are a parent. Does this make sense to anyone?