Inconsiderate, intimidating neighbors cause depression and anxiety?

Posted by robertwills @robertwills, Oct 26, 2024

Lets; say you have neighbors that sit outside your apartment building, smoke "weed" in public view (which is illegal) and use intimidating gestures towards you as you come and go. Could this be enough to cause legitimate depression and anxiety?

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@robertwills

Update: I have not seen the men outside in the last two days. This is unusual. I think they are still here though but something is definitely happening.

While this is obviously good, at this point and until they are finally gone I believe there is a risk of significant danger to people and the property. My guess is the landlord knows this too and I hope they made the appropriate security arrangements. As I indicated in a previous update I thought there may have been unmarked law enforcement vehicles around here. This may have been my imagination but on the other hand given the bad character of these people and the history of at least one of the men that would not surprise me one bit. They need to be under constant surveillance.

Thank you for listening. I will update again soon.

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Robert,
This is good news! It sounds like the authorities are finally doing something! Maybe the bad guys will get evicted or better yet, end up in jail! Until they are totally gone, stay out of sight as much as you can in case you accidentally run across them. They will be blaming you probably for anything bad that has happened to them. I'll keep praying.
PML

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I wish for you is to remain safe and not over reactive as that is hard on the nervous system and body.

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@kb2014

I wish for you is to remain safe and not over reactive as that is hard on the nervous system and body.

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Thank you so much. Earlier today I was actually uncontrollably shaking a little bit thinking about the week ahead. This never happened to me. Maybe this is a little bit of what they call a nervous breakdown, It's a very stressful time but I'm ok right now. I'll try to get a good night's sleep and try to stay focused on enjoying my life.

PML: Thank you for your prayers.

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When my stress and anxiety escalates I can become shaky too. I do not take any benzos. I do like meditation quiet calming music. I have 2 dogs so there physical presence is very soothing. Take Care. Stay safe. Bullies are actually very weak people.

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@kb2014

When my stress and anxiety escalates I can become shaky too. I do not take any benzos. I do like meditation quiet calming music. I have 2 dogs so there physical presence is very soothing. Take Care. Stay safe. Bullies are actually very weak people.

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I usually walk an hour a day and that is almost always very effective for stress and anxiety. But I'm not going out today as things are happening here and the men may be outside. Maybe I'll listen to some good music. Thanks.

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Update: I learned today that the legal process is still ongoing. The men will be here at least until next week but will in fact be permanently off the property in the near future. The good news is that I have not seen them, except once, in the last few days. It appears they think, or know, they are under surveillance but that is speculation on my part. They certainly haven't refrained from smoking weed right in front of the building because they realized that it's inconsiderate, in violation of the lease and illegal.

I will update again when something happens.

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Update: I woke up today feeling a combination of emotional and physical discomfort over this situation here. I said before that after the men leave (or are dragged off) that within 2 weeks I'll be back to feeling normal, and far safer. Now I'm kind of questioning this. To have aggressive, defiant men engaging in drug use right outside the building where you live and then threatening you for nothing you did, just walking home, has been traumatic to me.

If someone told me that this happened to them and they wanted my opinion on the after-effects I would say something like "That's scary and disturbing but I think it won't affect you long after these people are gone." Now I'm not so certain. The scene comes into my mind and it's no longer just "what had happened" but the fact that it "did happen"! That's the best way I can explain it.

As I noted in an earlier update, this is like some surreal trap where I am tied to these men in some bizarre way. You know that stories have a "climax"? Well in this story the climax will be from the time the men know that they will in fact be forced out, which takes place within days time, no longer then that. Will they just bring a truck, smoke some weed, load their stuff and leave before that happens? Or will they "act out"? Will they stay until the end and fight with law enforcement? With these people anything is possible and the later scenario, fighting, is a very real possibility.

Thank you for listening, it really helps. I will update again when anything else comes up.

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Update: This weekend ended with me feeling for the first time in months a sense of relief, like this nightmare is almost over. It isn't though! The men are still here. No threats though, thank goodness.

I don't think I will suffer any long-term negative effects. In fact I believe this experience will allow me to better handle certain situations. But I'm way ahead of myself. This I believe is because even a glimmer of hope now seems like bright sunshine! When these people leave I will be happier than I have ever been in my life!

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I hope these individuals leave soon. I hope and pray you are safe. Trauna can happen to anyone. PTSD is not limited to veterans or those who somehow escape death are raped or assaulted. I have asked thus before and it seems others have. Can you move? Would you move? I have been in places in my life many times where I had to ask myself why am I allowing this chaos in my life?

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@robertwills

Update: This weekend ended with me feeling for the first time in months a sense of relief, like this nightmare is almost over. It isn't though! The men are still here. No threats though, thank goodness.

I don't think I will suffer any long-term negative effects. In fact I believe this experience will allow me to better handle certain situations. But I'm way ahead of myself. This I believe is because even a glimmer of hope now seems like bright sunshine! When these people leave I will be happier than I have ever been in my life!

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Robert,
That's great news! Our prayers are finally getting answered! God does everything in his time and sometimes it's a long time but prayers do get answered. I'm so glad you feel better about the situation. The men must have been warned about harassing the neighbors and threatened we hope with eviction. I'll keep praying until it's all resolved. Then I'll be saying thank you prayers!

I'm glad things seem better for you!
PML

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