Daughter was here, holidays over and, well, the Doc. apt. may not have gone well but SHE sure straightened things out.

The constant hacking and checking phlegm stopped as she always asked him if there was anything wrong. Don't know why her asking bothered him, but then he was doing it constantly and publicly (yuck). He had to pick up his own tissues not leave them laying around because he was "dying".

She started ordering groceries on the Kroger site for delivery and it worked out excellently! He wouldn't do it or let me order that way because he didn't trust them or some other excuse (he had so many I forget all of them) and it always ended in a big fight. Makes it much easier for me as I don't have to haul a lot when I do go shopping for mainly meat and frozen things like ice cream. Yeah daughter!!

But, best of all was when she and grandkids decided to take me down to Louisville for 2 days. He was invited, but as usual grumpily declined hoping I would say No. The thing was what to do with him as leaving him alone is not an option for me. Daughter called his daughter and gave her some dates we were going but she was "too busy" as usual. Daughter even told her that if he couldn't stay with her for 2 days he would have to go into a respite care center. Stepdaughter couldn't care less. Let me make this clear, it wasn't a matter that his daughter was out of town or some such thing, her husband was off between Christmas and New Years, and they didn't want to be bothered!

My daughter had the stepdaughter on speaker so H. could hear the conversation so there was no misunderstanding. He overheard everything.

While he gave me a hard time about it, he shut his mouth in front of my Daughter. She made the arrangements for him. Needless to say he was grumpy after that but I sure was looking forward to getting out.

He wasn't happy when we picked him up from respite; but I had a good time and much needed to laugh, swim at the hotel pool, shopping, take in an antique show, movie, meals out. YEAH!!

Daughter said she had a good talk with him about how she knows and understands he is failing and that is part of life. That I am standing by him as caretaker, but I must have help, breaks and he can't keep harping on me about everything. That she will be checking on my mental and physical health. Told him if I get sick he will end up in a nursing home etc.

Folks, one of the best things was that he aways take food, plates, cups etc. but never brings them back to kitchen or makes a big mess for me in bathroom with towels etc. Boy, she called him to task on that. Told him that, hobbling and having issues is tough, but if he can throw his towel on the sink or leave it on the floor for me to pickup, he can hang it up BEFORE he leaves the bathroom. I can tell you he was glad to see her leave.

He is still grumpy, etc., and I leave him alone and go read, out for lunch, to the library even though that is difficult for me with my leg issues. Let's see how long it lasts.