I hesitated to reply because of my past trauma. My first husband now deceased had an online porn addiction. He could not focus on his health his work etc. He lost his job due to this. He died in 2012. What he did falls under domestic violence. I wore myself out caring for him working as a nurse.In May 2014 I got bacterial meningitis of my brain..I was coded on a vent in multi organ failure. A lot of work medical treatment recovery led to me being able to write this post. I got domestic violence trestment.in 2017. I learned the full impact of hos actions my codependency etc. I learned how my family of origion dysfunctional dynamics contributed to this. I am very sorry you are caught up in this. Please get help. The ramifications of what you ate doing are serious.