I wrote several long responses to this but deleted them all because I realized that RA affects us all differently. Yes, we all get joint pain and deformity, but RA is a systemic illness, meaning that it can (but doesn't always) affect other body parts and systems as well. So, while our personal stories might be meaningful to you and your husband after he's lived with it for a few months or years, the best place to start is by educating yourselves through respected, peer-reviewed sources (not random blogs hawking cure-alls and magic). Since you're here, you already know about the Mayo Clinic site, but there are many reliable information sites out there (Cleveland Clinic, Johns Hopkins, etc.), especially those associated with universities and (at least before trump 2.0) government agencies like the NIH and CDC. Learn what you can, not so you can dwell on everything that COULD happen but so you might recognize what IS happening.