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Does anyone feel old and useless with age?
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I’m 66 years old and feeling useless
I still have my faculties and I can still think straight, but I have this paranoid constant feeling like I’m being pushed aside.
I’ve been told it’s all in my head and that I’m just grieving.
I love my family and all I want is to give my sister a beautiful sendoff.
I’ve already lost my dad and then my mom and now my baby sister and I cannot wait to be with them again. That doesn’t mean I’m suicidal. It’s just a depression I’m currently going through and I’m taking it out on my entire surviving family members.
I wanted to be part of and participate in her funeral arrangements but have only been assigned projects and asked for the ideas simply to humor me.
I feel alone, although not alone.
I read a certain Bible passage at my Mom & Dads funeral’s which was assigned recently to my younger brother. I had it all planned along with a eulogy about my sister and our life growing up.
I think that between all of this, losing my sister, not being able to assist in plans, I’ve been having manic episodes that I cannot handle any longer. Is there anybody that can help me? I can’t take it and I don’t want to lose it. These emotions get so bad that I hurt all over.
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Think getting older ( suddenly I’m 78!) and reduced mobility or whatever just brings on that feeling of uselessness. Not good! I find I have to ZtAKE myself back. Exclaim that you are still you and want to live YOUR life in best way possible. Do not be on hurry to give it up!!!! Tho’ I get it! Start a new hobby like painting or writing to get back into yourself and take control as much as possible. Explain to family - challenging but worth it. Best to you!
sorry for your loss. best advice from Mel is "let them"
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Hi Cathie,
I'm so sorry about your sister dying. It's hard to cope with a loved ones death. My husband of 30 years died in July. I miss him terribly. In May my very good friend also died. Even the neighbor's cat who visited me a lot and just loved me moved away! Now here I am all alone except for one thing. I have God and Jesus and all the angels. I pray often and it helps a lot. It gets me through the day. Talk to God about all of your problems and ask for his help. He will. He has helped me a lot! I feel like you. I can't wait to join everyone up in Heaven that has gone before me; especially my husband. I'm not suicidal either.
What was the Eulogy you were going to give about your sister? If you feel like sharing it, I'd love to read it! Also what Bible passage were you going to read?
It sounds like your family is being rather insensitive. Just ignore them and do what you want to do. Don't wait for their approval. You don't need it. You lived for 66 years making your own decisions and it sounds like you still can with God's help. By the way, 66 is not old! I'm 78. That is old!
I wish you the best. I'll say a prayer for you.
PML