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Obsessions and Selfishness: Just need to vent
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Regarding being explicit, I do hesitate with my husband when sharing info, because he just forgets almost immediately. If there is something I feel he should know, I write it down and put it somewhere prominent. I wrote my husband a note regarding why I'm no longer interested in sex (due to his focus on self and not me, and the awkwardness), and that seemed to help him remember my frustrations, and he'd bring it up from time to time when he'd re-read the 'sex note', acknowledging my frustration.
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I feel guilty but I also believe I have, or ought to have, autonomy over my own person. Awkward is a good description. All I hear is, you used to like it. Yeah, when I was fifteen years younger. I'm 79 today and there are lots of things I've retired from that I used to enjoy. There's something ludicrous about an 80 yr. old behaving like a 35 yr. old, at least IMHO. I think middle aged people find elderly sex sweet because they're so afraid they'll lose their own mojo. By the time you lose it, you won't miss it. Again, IMHO.