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Caregivers | Last Active: Jan 19 11:46am | Replies (130)Comment receiving replies
babbsjoy, since I posted upthread in August, I did obtain in home health care and it has been very stressful as my dad is very resistant to the help. I must exert substantial effort to supervise when the aid comes, as daddy doesn’t want him in the house. He also refuses to allow the aid to assist him with hygiene, showering, shaving, etc, which he needs. The entire family, siblings, grandkids, etc. have told him it must happen, but he is not convinced. So, my mom and I can’t continue. I have contacted multiple facilities and have put him on the waiting list at one facility. I doubt he’ll like the nursing home, but we have no choice.
I’d get at least 4-5 hours a week, if you can and see how that goes. It’s not working out the way we expected. Resistance to care has proven to be the biggest issue with my parents. Both of them.
Good luck with everything. It can be very stressful and exhausting.
I’ll look forward to seeing how things go.
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I love hearing success stories about in home caregivers but I'm grateful to hear that many people have trouble making it work. That's where I am with my hubby. He wants me to do everything for him, even something as simple as getting him a glass of water, and wants caregiver to do housekeeping. I've tried leaving for quick errands but in 10 minutes he's calling to ask where I am and when I'll be home. (I've managed 30 minutes away at most) He's actually afraid to be away from me so I hesitate to just make him just tough it out. Guess I'll just keep at it and pray we can make it work. I really can't keep up the 24/7 schedule much longer.
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Oh, I am so sorry things are not working! I am concerned about the same for us. He is very resistant to the idea of anyone coming in as well, and I am concerned about where we are headed with all this! I can understand it, but it does put such a strain on everybody! Never would have anticipated being in this situation…..Your suggestions are appreciated—I will look at least that many hours to get started….
You are right, you have no choice but to look at facility care if nothing else is going to work/meet cooperation. I pray all will work out for you very soon!