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Caregiving: Anyone else doing this alone?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 4 days ago | Replies (45)Comment receiving replies
It's terribly difficult for the family when the family member won't cooperate with a plan of care. I know several such cases. One husband blames his wife for "abandoning" him and putting him in a facility. His behavior was so outrageous she simply couldn't cope. He's been kicked out of three facilities because of his behavior and now, I believe, he's back at home. It's a nightmare. At some point, you have to go forward with the plan that works best for you. Don't let yourself go down with the ship. Find some support, even if it's only (only?) a friend you can talk to.
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I appreciate that. I keep going because I know this is short lived. At some point in the near future, we’ll be in a place of peace. We will find them placements.
My mom’s condition worsens as well, and she refuses the meds that would help. So, her mobility will soon be zero. Therefore, I can see them both in a facility. My siblings are in board with this. Now, it’s just a matter of finding a place or two that has a vacancy and getting them qualified. They both have a very poor QOL, but does their actual health match? Their labs are pretty good, except for a few things.
It’s something I certainly hope to avoid for myself. I wouldn’t put my adult kids through this.
I suspect part of it is due to them always being such control freaks. The most controlling and stubborn people I’ve ever known, though they do have some good traits too. Now, this is causing them more anxiety than it would normally.