Well you may not like my comment, but my wife and I have been very happily married for 43 years. I had prostate surgery years ago and can not get it up at all, my wife is very beautiful with a great body , we had a very active sex life until my surgery. I felt very bad that my wife was not getting the sexual satisfaction she needed and deserved.
So one day I told her if the opportunity ever arises she has my permission to have sex with someone else with rules.
First , giving her permission should not be like cheating, she was not to have enough to fall in love, She is not to tell me if it happens, I don’t want to know,
We are just as happy as newly weds and enjoy our marriage.
I can tell she has did it a few time but, long as I just think it happened and not know for sure , we are good,
I’m sorry if this isn’t what you wanted to hear.
Randy 69 yo