I don’t know of any of these responses were to my post. Kissing is not an option for us because of my wife’s mouth ulcers. I’ve asked my wife about trying toys for her because I would like to satisfy her, but she says no to everything. Toys or masturbation are not the solution for me because what I want/need is intimacy with my wife, not just sex.

We just aren't fans of using toys.
At this time, yes, it is more me than my husband feeling lost without sex. He said sometimes he does want it, but it's more a fleeting thought and doesn't turn into anything. And on the rare occasion that it does, he gets so exhausted from the effort that it's really not worth it, he wont be able ti do anything else for a long time. The past few days we have just been sitting on the
couch and snuggling, and that kind of helps anyway.