I would have to say I am recently in this situation with my husband. We are still trying to figure out what is wrong, but he has cerebral palsy and up til the past two years, it has been a very mild case. I have several chronic illnesses, we have both hung in there with each other during the head times of dealing with our illnesses. But it has never gotten to this point where we have no sex and he has no desire at all for sex. And not really any other ways to still be close without sex. Whatever is going on with him is affecting all his ability to function, so I absolutely understand why he doesn't ever feel like having sex. I never thought NOT having sex or intimacy in other ways wouod affect me so much. As I used to have days like that in the past. But as I said...now it has become no sex or intimacy, instead of just occasional. We have talked about it, but not found any solutions. And we are not in favor of adding a third person so I can still have sex, that would not be advisable. I love my husband and I want the best for him and us. But idk what the answer is. I have done a ton of research on this topic but everything says to do other things to add intimacy. But my husband is so bad off, ANYTHING extra is draining. So idk where to go from here. Since we are still trying to figure out what's going on with him, adding counseling in is not going to be an option as if right now. Too many dr bills and we're just trying to cope day to day right now. But I woukd welcome another solution if anyone has any.