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Dealing with a Spouse with a “Mild Cognitive Impairment”
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Hi, @tryingtimes10 Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect! While we wait for members to get involved in this discussion, I thought you might find this earlier discussion helpful.
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/caregiver-for-spouse-with-mci/
You are in a very difficult position but I respect your thoughts and hope you find some help from your therapist. You are not alone in caring for a spouse with MCI. It’s just very difficult.
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@becsbuddy I am 85, married for 65 yrs to Chuck, 85.
Chuck has early stage of dementia.
We get along pretty good but I am getting tired.
With that comes impatience, anger,
And so many other emotions. I feel so guilty when I loose my temper and raise my voice which makes him feel bad. Sometimes he is arguementitive.
The mind works in mysterious ways on a normal day but with dementia, the one with dementia drives the caregiver crazy which is a different kind of mind dysfunction. That’s where I am right now. I cry too much, I need my alone time. Sometimes I don’t want to have to move—-not a muscle. On the other hand, I know there are so many in a worse situation than I. I also feel guilty for not being a stronger wife and partner. I think Chuck would do a better job if it were the other way around. I need some suggestions.
I am so tired.
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Thank you for your kind words. My decline has been multifactorial but the icing on the cake was certainly my husband’s MCI I’m dealing with. I don’t know that I will ever be the person I was pre-pandemic & my husband’s pre- MCI. Both changed my life tremendously & not for the good. I’m sorry for complaining & it’s not my intent to use this as a woe is me bitch site. I’m interested in knowing how others deal with what feels like a slow loss of the person they were married to.