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Morbid question: I'm really afraid of finding my husband dead
Caregivers | Last Active: Dec 30, 2024 | Replies (35)Comment receiving replies
We had a gut- wrenching conversation tonight that had left me adrift. My husband does not admit that he has CAA/ MCI and that he ever had a TIA. He says all the doctors are wrong. He does not acknowledge any of the findings- and I understand. It is hard, it is scary, and no one wants this.
He desperately wants to drive and says that if he cannot drive- then je just wants to die. He has no hobbies and he wants to work - but he can’t get to a job and I doubt he could even get through an interview. I am just floundering and I hurt so much for him and for us.
I was crying and he told me that I cry too much. I am crying now as I type - you are the only people who truly understand.
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I am so sorry for what you are going through. It is truly hard especially when your spouse denies that he has any of those problems. How long has he had CAA? And was the stroke very long ago? I was just wondering how long you have had to deal with this. I had to look up CAA because I did not know what that meant. So it is similar to dementia but different, right? He certainly does not seem to understand what is happening therefore, he doesn't understand why you are crying. Was he ordered by the doctors not to drive? It definitely would be dangerous. How old is your husband? Is he lucid enough to work?
Sorry for so many questions. Evidently by your comments, he isn't. You know him best as you spend everyday with him.
this has to be so hard for you.
Are you able to attend a caregivers support group or can't you leave him alone? I am going to attend a virtual meeting in January. I got the info from here.
So, I figured what the heck? I can do a video one and see what it is all about. Maybe you could do this, too. I hope you have friends and family around to give you support.
sharing our problems with others seems to lift the load a little bit even though they may not truly understand. My husband knows that he has copd and advanced stage 4 lung cancer. He has been miserable ever since he got his first treatment. He has his second treatment on January 2. It is a 7 hour day for him. As sick as he has been, I am surprised he is even going back. but it is horrible to listen to him moaning etc., as I hate to see someone suffer. He does have good days but they are few and far between. I quit my part time job as I can't be away from him that long as I have caught him smoking cigarettes with his oxygen on. There are many things that he does that could cause risks for him and me. He just told me that the pain pills are not working and he feels like just shooting himself. Yes, all of us caregivers are in a hard position. I am a believer and I do pray but sometimes I feel as though God is not listening, but I know in my heart that he is. Stay strong my friend. Prayers and may God bless you and your husband. It is good to vent on here. There are other people who understand and are always ready to comfort. Post anytime. I check this website everyday.