I don't blame you for letting your spouse eat what he wants. What's the point? If they are terminal or not able to ever get better, let them do what they want-within reason. They do not have much joy left in life. I sometimes wonder if that is the reason my husband still smokes 2 packs of cigarettes a day. Maybe he is hurrying it along. But that is the enjoyment he has left, He is sick, has no appetite , can't really go anywhere except to the doctors . He does enjoy watching tv though. So, I don't say a word. I do give him his oxycodone every day, because if left in his hands he would take more than prescribed. Oh, the joys and trials of being a caregiver. Have a good day.