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Morbid question: I'm really afraid of finding my husband dead
Caregivers | Last Active: Dec 30, 2024 | Replies (35)Comment receiving replies
I understand these “morbid” thoughts and feelings. I have the same or similar ones. I heard a comment that doctors treat and medicate the symptoms but they cannot treat the cause.
I am more and more ok with letting my spouse eat what he wants and even skipping his meds now and then- I have to force him to take them and sometimes it is just too hard. Honestly- sometimes I am too tired or too busy to remember the meds- but never more than once; we always get back on track.
Our senior dog is showing signs that her end may be near and losing her will affect both of us.
Side note- when my mother died at 90+ my sister and I both wished that we had let her eat as many sweets as she wanted. That might be morbid because she was diabetic, but she would have been happy. Or maybe just let her have desert every day…
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I don't blame you for letting your spouse eat what he wants. What's the point? If they are terminal or not able to ever get better, let them do what they want-within reason. They do not have much joy left in life. I sometimes wonder if that is the reason my husband still smokes 2 packs of cigarettes a day. Maybe he is hurrying it along. But that is the enjoyment he has left, He is sick, has no appetite , can't really go anywhere except to the doctors . He does enjoy watching tv though. So, I don't say a word. I do give him his oxycodone every day, because if left in his hands he would take more than prescribed. Oh, the joys and trials of being a caregiver. Have a good day.
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My son is 19 he has had two heart transplants and three strokes the med thing is a real issue not to mention I hit menopause as well sometimes it’s a lot. What are you doing for yourself?