Just read your post. Don't the nursing homes in your area have alzheiemers locked units? Or are you saying he needs both for dementia and physical? I would think they would attend to both. I don't know what state you are in, but when I have come up against a problem that I needed help with, I called my area legislator. They have helped me in the past. That maybe an option for you in looking for a place that would not only care for him dementia and his physical problems. They may know of a place that he would get good care at. I realize that is not an easy topic to talk about or even think about. My husband just came out of his bedroom and said that he could not breathe very well. HIs inhalers are all empty so I gave him mine. I also told him to put his oxygen on so he did. It has to be his copd acting up. The lung cancer does not help. Well, we will wait to see if it gets better; if not, I will be calling an ambulance. Yes, I hope that all the caregivers have a peaceful and better new year. And I pray for all the people suffering that they will find relief. Take care.