Good Morning. Well, we made it through another day. My mom, my two brothers and my sister n law all came to celebrate. They all talked to Joe. Joe did not have a good day. He stayed in his recliner and did not eat a thing. But he did talk to my family as they went into the living room to see him. He did watch the steeler game. He was up until about 7:00 at which time he went to bed. It was an exhausting day for me but nice. I was glad that most of my family showed up. This morning he is saying he is very dizzy and it is making him unbalanced when he tries to walk. He is trying to tough this out. But, I on the other hand, want to call the ambulance everytime he tells me that he is feeling worse. And he tells me not to. Last night a visiting nurse called and she is coming out today around 3 or 4. Thank God. So, how are you today? And how is your husband? I have never dealt with someone who had dementia but I know from reading it is a terrible disease. My friend's father had it and she has told me about his experiences and they weren't pretty. But finally she admitted them both to a nursing home because it became too much for her to care for them as she was working full time. She did have other family, but they left her to carry the burden. You must be exhausted. My husband gets confused a lot but is not too much of a bother as he spends most of his time in the recliner. I can surely understand why you take advantage of the time when he sleeps. When do you get to sleep? Do you have close family nearby? If it gets too bad, you might want to consider a nursing home. It comes to a point where we have to think of our own survival. But thinking of putting a loved one into a home is terrible. They are not always the nicest places. My dad was in one for a short while and I know some of the aides there really don't care about the patient. Saw it first hand. But my mom was 73 and my dad kept falling and she could not pick him up. She tried as long as she could but just could not do it anymore. AT the time she did not live close to me and I and my two brothers were all working full time. It is so hard. But if you ever decide to go that way, make sure you talk to an elder attorney first. I used to work at one of the many welfare offices in PA and I was an income maintenance caseworker. My cases were determining eligibility for nursing home help from the state. I have been retired for 12 years, but there are lots of rules. I know that they won't make the patient sell the home if they have a spouse still living there. But financial things can get tricky that is why I would recomment talking to an elder care attorney. I hope you have a good day and I hope your husband does too. Reach out anytime.

I understand these “morbid” thoughts and feelings. I have the same or similar ones. I heard a comment that doctors treat and medicate the symptoms but they cannot treat the cause.

I am more and more ok with letting my spouse eat what he wants and even skipping his meds now and then- I have to force him to take them and sometimes it is just too hard. Honestly- sometimes I am too tired or too busy to remember the meds- but never more than once; we always get back on track.
Our senior dog is showing signs that her end may be near and losing her will affect both of us.

Side note- when my mother died at 90+ my sister and I both wished that we had let her eat as many sweets as she wanted. That might be morbid because she was diabetic, but she would have been happy. Or maybe just let her have desert every day…