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At what point are you considered alone forever?
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@texasguy1962 I do not think you are wrong at all. I spend time with a group of people who many are single in your age range...well, I am 56 but many of these people are older. One woman in the group once told me that she has been happy since her divorce many years ago because she has the freedom to do what she wants whenever she wants to do it.
I think I understand where you are coming from. When I was dealing with some issues I used to say I want to be left alone, but I do not want to feel lonely. I think it speaks to being yourself, but you hope for the company of others. I think there women out there that have those same feelings. When speaking to these friends, those are the people who are the most stable...they stand on their own. They are comfortable with who they are and are patient when it comes to relationships.
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These are all good points. I have discovered as I have gotten older that there is such a huge difference between loneliness and solitude. A bad marriage can spurn profound loneliness, but make one yearn for solitude. As the years have gone by, I do appreciate my ability to find quiet time for my mind to shed the stressors of the marriage gone bad.
I sometimes imagine that this is the “peace” that divorce may yield on the other side, but getting there is a huge step.
My children are grown and on their own and are fully aware of the long-standing issues between my wife and I.
I know they would understand and be happy that we are both pursuing a happier existence apart from each other. It’s not their job to be emotional referees. Nonetheless, it is somewhat traumatic to blow up the family model and architect a whole new dynamic moving forward.
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Yes, I believe you hit the nail on the head.
No one truly want to belong, but if surrendered by people who don't get you or add value to your life, not materially but enriching, throught provoking meaningful conversation. Along with light hearted laughter from time to time. I fell there is a void, and one is only going through the motion.In my younger years I my have over looked or couldn't see what was best for me the right decision could or would have changed my destiny. I will continue to move forward with joy in my heart. God is Good. Hindsight is 20/20