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Morbid question: I'm really afraid of finding my husband dead
Caregivers | Last Active: Dec 30, 2024 | Replies (35)Comment receiving replies
@denise96: I have thought the same thoughts during the last few months of my late husband’s life. Have you had a candid conversation with him telling him you watch him getting sicker and perhaps hospital would keep him out of pain (access to morphine, etc.)? I would also tell his doc you want him to receive needed pain relief and you fear he is near death now- tell doc you just can’t be caregiver anymore. The doc can make things happen to change the scenario.
Denise, everyone has their limits and the doc has option to put him in a facility. I hope this helps. Bette
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Thank you for your concern. I don't know if they could give him any more pain medications that they already are. If you want my honest answer, I think he plays up the pain just so he can stay on his narcotic meds. He was rushed by ambulance last sunday night due to being in respiratory distress and was unresponsive. On Wednesday he signed an AMA form signing himself out. I went to get him and the first thing he wanted was his oxycodone. They were only giving him 20 mg a day. He is used to 100mg. But the funny thing was when the drs asked him if he was in any pain, he told them no. He takes xtampa which is a form of morphine 20 mg and the oxycodone is 20 mg 4 times a day. I suggested hospice and he said he would not go anywhere except home. Well, I will honor his wishes until the time comes that I can't handle it anymore by myself.