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Anyone deal with Dementia AND Narcissistic personality disorder?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Apr 16 8:06pm | Replies (69)Comment receiving replies
I am not noble. I am here for financial reasons only. Your suggestion is a common one, but the reality of it is, stepping outside or getting an afternoon out really does little. As people who deal with a Narc know, it is a steady stream of walking on egg shells and being degraded. Even when you do get out, its always in your mind that you have to return. The Dementia is easy to deal with nut dealing with a narccistic person is a whole different world. But thank you for your thoughts.
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I understand and share your situation. I am in a similar age bracket. I am unable to leave. I am working to observe and label the narc behavior. And to keep it from affecting me as little as possible. I only engage when necessary. I sleep in another room and do not eat, watch tv ,or go anywhere with my partner. I have trusted friends who understand but no one who lives near me. No family or support network. I have read as much as i can about coping strategies. I don’t question and try not to voice any opinions to the narc. No one cares , do they? Avoidance is my strategy. And staying connected by phone or text to kind people. Books, animals, nature help. As does exercise, in particular, walking.
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My brothers tell me to just leave the house when my mother gets verbally abusive. Only thing is that I will pay when I get back. Mom will ask, Where were you? Did you go eat with your friends? and try to make us feel gulity for not being by her side every minute. I wouldn't even able to enjoy myself if I were to leave. She has a way of making me and my siblings feel like we are bad children even though everyone is doing their best to give her quality of life. I understand losing one's memory can be scary. Doctors prescribed a med (I don't recall what it was) but when we read the side effects we decided not to give it to her because the med might alter her personality for the worse, not for the better and we didn't want to take the chance of making things worse. Glad you finally found a med that chilled your mother out. Thank you for sharing! At least we know we are not alone and that others are struggling as well.
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@blue717 I relate so much on this. I have been walking on eggshells since i got married. And now the added Lewy Body disease and cirrhosis it has only exaggerated every symptom. I have lost who I am. I have also been the sole provider financially for about 6 + years now, so that added stress hasn't helped AND I just lost me job 2 days ago suddenly. I feel like it was because of my home life, having to leave for doctor appt and hospital visits.