I am truly sorry, Tricia. I am a lone male in a family with three girls and a wife, and even the dog is female. Except for a recent atrial fibrillation and mitigation event in my life, and cataract surgery, I am very healthy, stable in mood and in body mass, and am generally very contented with my lot in life. But, the women all have emotional difficulties and require one or more medications to keep their feet under them. It's rough for me as well since I have no background or experience in helping with the mitigation. It's a tough row to hoe for the ladies, as I fully understand. I hope you won't take my next comment as patronizing or pandering/woke...it isn't meant that way, but as an honest reality that I see based on my own mum, my wife, her mum, and my three girls: women are generally tougher'n tiger spit (purposefully misspelled, but you catch my drift). They do things with grace and love in a way that men can't often bring themselves to do. It pains me that so many of you suffer grievances to the point where you are all but incapacitated emotionally, including how it affects your sleep and calm.

I assume you have undertaken some form of therapy? Have you tried several, including EMDR or CBT? If you can get past the 'bother', you might find that you need less or none of the aids to sleep.

Thanks for your compliment.