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Just can't handle this any more
Caregivers | Last Active: 5 days ago | Replies (34)Comment receiving replies
Do you have any caregiver support groups in your area? It is really nice to able to unload with someone who gets it. They are listed online. Also you need to walk away from that situation 2 to 3 days a week for a couple or more hours. Do something out of the house, a hobby, volunteer, walk the park, movie, take a swim, or coffee or lunch with a friend etc. When you went on your own for that hamburger at Culvers, do you remember how that felt? Do something where the environment is normal. Something you enjoy and it's for you. And set the days and hours and do not let him change it. You are slowly going crazy. You are very unhappy. You feel you are losing control of the situation which you are. You need to put the brakes on. It will give you some perspective.
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Good suggestion about online groups for caregivers, @dougokane. In fact, there is one led by a Mayo Clinic social worker that @kartwk and others are welcome to join weekly or as able:
Caring for the Caregiver Support Group meets weekly on Thursdays from 12-1 p.m. MT. See more info here:
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/event/caregiver-support-group-meeting-3-8216/
@dougokane, what is your caregiving situation? How are you doing?
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I am losing control of the situation.
Now, with the cold weather, he is going looney about the heat in the house. We have a heat pump, just put in about 15 months ago. Since Thanksgiving he has called the heating co. 3 times claiming it isn't working right. I have no doubt they have him on the krank, kook list but as we have a warranty and service contract they have to come out.
The last guy was here yesterday and found nothing wrong with the way the system was working. It responded to all the various commands he gave it. Two hours after he left H was complaining that the system and the thermostat were not communicating properly!
He will probably call them again in the next day or two.
It is getting embarrassing. This is in addition the honking and phlegm routine he does.
I am so down in the dumps as when I try to explain what they said, the system is working fine, etc., right away I don't know what I am talking about.
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