When I don't go along with him I don't love him, etc. poor him. He does't get it that it extremely difficult for me. If I didn't care if wouldn't bother me (like how his daughter is concerning us).

I want to go to counselling BUT he doesn't want anyone to know our business, which also concerns me.

I can say I don't leave him alone a lot because he almost burned down the kitchen. He forgets to turn off burners and then is careless with leaving dish towels in the vicinity.

I feel guilty disclosing all this because I feel something must be wrong with me, I should be able to handle it.