Hmmmm. Okay. Perhaps start off nonsexual? Sometimes we need to feel close and connected before we can be intimate. Perhaps he feels so much pressure (most likely from himself - as all men seem to do), that he is afraid to be involved at any sexual level. Is there something y'all enjoy doing together? Can you think of ways to connect that are nonsexual? Have you bluntly asked him what turns him on and what turns him off? Was your sex life satisfying for you and for him prior to this moment in your life? Have you thought of seeing a sexual therapist? Even if you have to go alone, it may help. In fact, you may not want to tell him you're going at first simply because it brings the issue front and center. Perhaps after some advice from a professional (and I mean a licensed sexual therapist), you can gain some insight of what may be helpful? I would try really hard not to show my resentment and frustration (easier said then done, I know). Try to have some laughs together. Do something new together - ever been sky diving? Perhaps you're not that adventurous, but salsa dance lessons or cooking together. Anything new and different that could connect you and cause a little spark? I will be praying for you. I understand it is difficult. I know I felt is was my fault, that I wasn't attractive enough (I used to model and am still in good shape), that I was doing something wrong, or that he was having an affair. None of that turned out to be the problem. Perhaps there is even an issue in your marriage unrelated to sex that he is resentful of and hasn't spoken about? Again, I will be praying for you. Hope you can find and are able to go to a good therapist!

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