I have sometimes found surgeons to be very quick and even brusque, if they determine you don't need surgery or as @jenniferhunter says, don't want to do surgery for your case.

I saw an orthopedist who does not do surgery, who spent 45 minutes with me and explained a lot about the source of my pain, even offering that I could take photos of the scans on his screen. I don't know is someone like that is available to you. Mu neurologist has been helpful. I have also found that PT's are often better at diagnosing the source of pain that the surgeon I saw.

Once it is determined that I do need surgery. a surgeon is of course needed. I would get at least 3 opinions before anyone goes near my spine! I am so sorry you felt dismissed. Your pain is real and deserves help.