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I'm feeling low these days and this has started impacting my life.

Posted by ayushhere @ayushhere, Nov 7 9:26am

So, I recently dropped out from my university as I was not enjoying what I was persuing and started preparing for a Bank exam. While preparing for the exam, I isolated myself in my room which resulted in me feeling somewhat lonely. I talk with my family but not that much. Even my friends have stopped checking up on me. This has led me to contemplate alot which in turn has affected my mental health. I think I can crack the exam but my mental health is inhibiting that goal of mine. Also, I don't want to bother my friends as they themselves are dealing with their own baggage. I just need someone to share my thoughts with, who won't judge my insecurities. I don't know how to cope with this alone.

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robertwills | @robertwills | Nov 7 11:29am

The good news is you are looking to change your situation. The other good news, actually great news, is that you are so young and have many years to have a great life with countless wonderful moments. Use your valuable time to make the change; go out and join a group or volunteer or just "be around". There's plenty of people "out there' that will listen, won't judge and the best part will tell you what they think. Then think for yourself.

When I was at the university I was in a bad shape, mental and physically. I had no choice though; I wasn't going to make it (I can't even believe I'm saying that!) So I focused on my studies and at the same time got to know some students who were kind of similar to me. I excelled at my studies so much that I won a highly sought after award. That led to me studying at prestigious international university which led to me meeting other students were were even more similar to me. and became life-long friends. I also took up walking and have walked briskly for an hour a day on most days. That alone added so much to the quality of my life. In fact everything, eating, sleeping, working, etc.. is balanced by the walks. Plus I'm in great aerobic shape with perfect vitals. I also look far below my age.

Then I created a dream career, then travelled the world at whim! The absolute joy I have experienced was something I never thought possible. You and everyone can find it, too, If you search for it. And searching can be fun! It can also be very difficult as well, The old saying "don't quit" is one of the best I have ever heard.

Right now I am dealing with a very difficult family health issue and moved to be closer to family. I moved this city that is "rougher" than what I am used to and there is real crime here. In fact I have been threatened a number of times by people who live in the building where I currently live. I's a nice place in a good part of town. It seems that people here have a tolerance for this kind of behavior. It's made me feel anxious and depressed to a degree. I have been working to resolve this and it's been very difficult, and I admit scary, but it appears now that this problem is literally on the way out.

Taking the right, just steps and never relenting is the "secret" to solving issues. In my long experience things do get better when you approach problems in this way. In fact they can get so much better than you could ever imagine.

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Scott R L | @scottrl | Nov 7 11:40am

Sorry you're having a rough time.

The good news is -- we are designed *not* to go through troubles by ourselves.

You might be surprised by the empathy your friends have. Don't presume they're too busy to help. True, some will be, but others -- your real friends -- will have time for you, as long as you're pursuing genuine help.

Lately, I have had several friends, and even a niece of mine, reaching out to me for help. What they really need is a good listener. Being physically disabled, I have a lot of time on my hands, and I've been through tough times myself, so I'm glad to help.

Anyway, sometimes it's best to take a step back. That way you can determine whether you're heading in the right direction or just moving with the herd.

Good luck, and remember to have compassion for yourself.

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Lisa Lucier, Moderator | @lisalucier | Nov 7 11:45am

Hi, @ayushhere. It sounds like you've had a lot of change and pressure in your life recently.

Glad you've connected with @robertwills.

I'm tagging a few other members who have talked about dropping out of an education program they were pursuing or changed career directions personally or by someone close to them so they can interact with the situation you described and share their experiences. Please meet @jdiakiw @kathleenandbob @bookysue.

@ayushhere - have you shared any of what you are experiencing with your doctor? If so, what did your doctor suggest?

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ayushhere | @ayushhere | Nov 7 12:53pm
In reply to @robertwills "The good news is you are looking to change your situation. The other good news, actually..." + (show)
@robertwills

The good news is you are looking to change your situation. The other good news, actually great news, is that you are so young and have many years to have a great life with countless wonderful moments. Use your valuable time to make the change; go out and join a group or volunteer or just "be around". There's plenty of people "out there' that will listen, won't judge and the best part will tell you what they think. Then think for yourself.

When I was at the university I was in a bad shape, mental and physically. I had no choice though; I wasn't going to make it (I can't even believe I'm saying that!) So I focused on my studies and at the same time got to know some students who were kind of similar to me. I excelled at my studies so much that I won a highly sought after award. That led to me studying at prestigious international university which led to me meeting other students were were even more similar to me. and became life-long friends. I also took up walking and have walked briskly for an hour a day on most days. That alone added so much to the quality of my life. In fact everything, eating, sleeping, working, etc.. is balanced by the walks. Plus I'm in great aerobic shape with perfect vitals. I also look far below my age.

Then I created a dream career, then travelled the world at whim! The absolute joy I have experienced was something I never thought possible. You and everyone can find it, too, If you search for it. And searching can be fun! It can also be very difficult as well, The old saying "don't quit" is one of the best I have ever heard.

Right now I am dealing with a very difficult family health issue and moved to be closer to family. I moved this city that is "rougher" than what I am used to and there is real crime here. In fact I have been threatened a number of times by people who live in the building where I currently live. I's a nice place in a good part of town. It seems that people here have a tolerance for this kind of behavior. It's made me feel anxious and depressed to a degree. I have been working to resolve this and it's been very difficult, and I admit scary, but it appears now that this problem is literally on the way out.

Taking the right, just steps and never relenting is the "secret" to solving issues. In my long experience things do get better when you approach problems in this way. In fact they can get so much better than you could ever imagine.

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Thank you Robert for your kind words. I'll definitely inculcate the points you mentioned in my life. I am on the right track and I ain't giving up.

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yellowfinch | @yellowfinch | Nov 9 3:28am

Think of a friend you would help if needed and go to him/her. Try a support group. Tell your primary doctor and get a referral. Good luck!

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