SEX IS OVER-RATED and is NOT the defining activity of sustaining a marriage or long-term relationship, for many. I know many long-time married people who live on different floors, don't have sex, but are a still married..likely their breakdown caused the sexless or vice-versa...only they know..but some couples stay married, are devoted spouses, grand parents. etc..I know first-hand.

Let's be real, our bodies age and decline, we are made to have a strong sex drive when we are young to reproduce, or to enjoy passion as a couple with or without goal to have kids..etc...it's all tied together..I believe..as humans...

As we age, a woman's body (I am a woman) gets vaginal atrophe, and sex hurts, many women fake the desire and go thru the motions with creams, etc, to satisfy their mate on viagra, etc., but in reality the female likely is fine listening to her body and gradually replacing sex with fun activities, more emotional closeness, more deep chats, adjusting to their new aging bodies..as we age we have more time for more deep emotional connections...

For men it's the same, without the blue pill, they lose ability to be erect enough long enough, for an ejaculation, the female has to help push it in, but all of that ruins the passion..I think however, the male really wants emotional connection too...kissing, hugging cuddling, etc. is fine..if you want a toy or too fine..if both are willing to explore...but in the end, our bodies change for reason so I feel we have to explore sexless alternatives..

if however those say I NEED SEX, well, it's not really true I think they need closeness, emotional passion..

so maybe explore other reasons why your mate is unhappy...it's probably not about the sex...I only have platonic relationships, and I have PEACE..and in the end, being peaceful with yourself is the end goal for everyone..