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Help - I am burned out and dealing with someone who is stubborn
Caregivers | Last Active: Nov 25 8:39pm | Replies (54)Comment receiving replies
The phlegm issue is a sinus problem. Tell him to see an ENT. The other issues are related to fear of dying and the obsession with how to prevent it...Does he have a religious leader he could talk to? These obsessions are irrational so you cannot respond to them with logic or other fixes. Just ignore as much as you can and find a support group or activities that get you out of the house. Praying for you.
Replies to "The phlegm issue is a sinus problem. Tell him to see an ENT. The other issues..."
"These obsessions are irrational so you cannot respond to them with logic or other fixes."
How true. This week another doc visit for...his lungs. I would have contacted doc before visit, but H called and got a cancellation, so I did not have a chance.
After the checking of his lungs and listening to him moan about the phlegm etc. AND asking for more antibiotics (he has had two doses of these since Sept.) I spoke out and asked the doc what he hears in his lungs, the response was NOT MUCH! And of ours H is not using the inhaler the doc prescribed as he should.
I think I am right, most of it is in H's mind.
So, since then he has done his hacking and honking - it is not that he HAS to expel phlegm, it is that he gives it the old heave hoe to get it up so he can check the color, etc. Compulsive.
I have been working and watching tv in other rooms away from the noise and irritation and he doesn't like it. Too bad.
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I don't mean to sound like I am not taking your advice but we have been to many of those as well. It is frustrating.