Oh Babs thank you so much for the ideas.

I am still working on him. I tried the "do it for me" approach and was promptly told that I obviously didn't give a darn about what he was going through.

He now claims he has asthma, but has always been diagnosed with emphysema and COPD.

This afternoon we saw the doc AGAIN. (1 ER visit and 3 doc. visits in 2 weeks). Funny, his whole demeaner and complaint was different. Now things are clearing up, the phlegm is now clear etc. but he still has some problems (I'm doing the slow burn after all he put me through quietly). Must be his allergies/asthma, he says.

Doc. clarified to him he does not have asthma, so a lot of things won't work for him, but emphysema and COPD so that line from H isn't going to work any more.

Doc checks out his lungs and says he only hears a tiny bit of crackling in the lower, left lung, nothing bad, but tells him he needs to continue his inhaler use, gave him another course of pregnoson. I told doc. H didn't always use inhaler as he was supposed to and got the look" from H. Also told him that H was fixated on sucking stuff up from his lungs into a Kleenex and checking it out constantly. Of course, H tried to deny but I know the doc. caught it.

I suggested lung exercises to which doc. agreed, but hubby, well he wasn't going that way at all. Hey, can lead a horse to water.....

We are home, H has got his prescription and is quiet for now. Funny, after hacking and sucking stuff out of his lungs for 2 weeks, including this a.m., all the sudden he is peaceful. I am truly believing it is in his head.

Tomorrow is a new day and he will start all over again. If I was a betting woman I would bet we are either in the ER or back in the docs. office in 2 weeks or sooner.

And away we go again.