Your situation sounds exhausting. I can see why you are so fatigued. Caregiver fatigue is real. It has taken a toll on my physical health. If I had it to do over…..I’d reconsider for sure. I get it’s your husband, but beware of your own needs. I always encourage people to get a legal consult from elder law attorney, so you know your rights and responsibilities. This is very important when a spouse has cognitive issues or a change in behavior and personality.

I’m no expert, but when my cousin first started exhibiting signs of change, I had no idea what it was. She exhibited odd behavior even though she was always known to be rather quirky. She began collecting large quantities of certain items, like paper towels, Lysol, empty milk containers, etc. This was before covid, and it did come in handy. Lol. She became convinced that her adult cat could escape from her house through a crevice the size of a pea. So she taped around doors and windows. She would become disagreeable over nothing. She accused me of leaving grease on her kitchen countertop, when it was nothing but a drop of water. She cut the items to go into her trash can into small pieces and washed them. So her trash had to be clean and small. She’d start an argument over nothing. A friend at my office asked me if she had dementia and I said no way. I said, she runs her own household. I didn’t realize that it often starts as odd behavior, poor judgment, lack of insight, agitation, etc.

I wish there were better options, but situations like these are very difficult. I hope you are able to get support for yourself.