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Help - I am burned out and dealing with someone who is stubborn
Caregivers | Last Active: Nov 25 8:39pm | Replies (54)Comment receiving replies
FWIW, about 6 months ago we were in the doc for the same stuff. His lungs. He asked the doc for another inhaler. Doc told him he had them all and there were no new ones, and that he claimed to have problems with and from all of them. He was upset and disappointed.
Yes, he has COPD and lung problems but I believe he is just always looking for something to be wrong with his lungs. He is always force upchucking something out of his lungs into kleenex so he can "evaluate" it. Almost constantly!
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Find him a hobby, cards, puzzles something to get him off his lung problems. My wife and I play aceie/ducie may not be spelled right. We play everyday one or more games. She loves to beat and it takes her alittle out of her bitching mood some. I said some..... My wife wants me there by her side most of the time so I fill our together time for with games or puzzles to try to change her attitude if it's bad. If she is doing good it just keeps her looking to foward to playing more games. My wife suffers from the result of a bullet to her brain. Left her left side paralyzed and in a wheelchair. Her mind is 98% there and stubborn too. Always has a problem but refuse to see a doctor. She just wants to complaints me.... Push my buttons, right. Try not to let them see they got you. I just tell her I'll be back when she settles down. Good Luck, I been a caregiver since December 25, 2018
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Wow, I can't imagine dealing with it day after day. I know he has other issues as well from your earlier posts.
At this level of stress, you NEED to find respite help. Is there anyone you can call on to sit with him for a few hours while you get out of the house and do something for yourself? If not a family member or friend, can you check with your county office on aging to see what exists in your area?
My Dad used to be a volunteer "senior companion" - he would go hang out with another guy, in his home, for 2-3 hours to let the caregiver have a break. They would swap stories, play cribbage, or just watch TV & have coffee (Dad always brought homemade cookies or quick bread to share.) It was through neighborhood senior services near his home.
Please, let's figure out how to get YOU a break...Hugs!
Sue