I can identify with almost everyone’s comments on this topic. Lost sleep over it too.
Finally, I just let it go. Decided though to keep the door open. Was glad I did, because one granddaughter had decided to keep in touch again, and now I enjoy occasional phone calls and texts.
Have lost touch with my favorite granddaughter, had a hard time not to remember her on special events, but decided to do so after not receiving any recognition for what I thought were thoughtful gestures and gifts.
But,
I had asked everyone for a framed everyday picture for my 80th birthday, and lo and behold, I received those from everyone!! I was overjoyed.
My relationship with my grown kids, who don’t live in my town, is not easy either. I know they are busy with work, etc. So as long as I’m able to drive, I go see them, trying my best to take turns, being considerate, paying my way, keeping my opinions to myself - not easy, lol, but that seems to work.
So far so good.
Letting go….