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@thisismarilynb

Yesterday was my 90th birthday. I am still amazed that I have lived so long. It turned out to be a lovely day, but I am under no illusions that all days will be like that. I have mentioned in some previous posts that I am awkward around people. So I have now made a decision that I am not going to try anymore. I have a couple of friends in my community and that will have to be enough. At this point I realize that even though now I am healthy things will start to go downhill and there are not many more years ahead. But that's okay. I had a wonderful husband and we travelled so I have been to so many places around the world. Now is my downtime and when it comes I will be ready.

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I truly hope you have thought long and well on your statement, "I am awkward around people," as the reason for not bothering to have more than your current two friends. I say this out of my extensive interest in and around the subject of 'friends,'

So this is how I look at your statement: One can say I am awkward around babies, around noisy crowds, even funerals and pets and tattooed heavily, or with Down Syndrome++ ... and I will still have no problem understanding and agreeing with that statement of yours.

The reason I feel unease with your words is simply because depending upon one or two close friends to fill up our need for friends in our current society is too inadequate. I think the consensus is five close friends whom one could call for help whenever that need arises.

So my hope is that you did dig deeper when you say 'because I feel awkward.' It's the quality of the reasons behind that I find missing and therefore it troubles me because you might say later : But why did I not flesh out What did 'feeling awkward' mean when I already Have Two (people) friends, whom I Enjoy spending time with?

In the end it's Your life and You have to be fully satisfied with Your decisions, as we all need to, to have a practical understanding of how one's life can be measured as 'good enough/not bad' a measure I set for my life knowing well the constraints I must live it within.
I Wish u Well,

As for myself, I'd give away happily ten hours each week for five friends. Yes, I work for developing friendships many hours each day