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Ready to throw in the towel ... never imagined I'd be this sad
Mental Health | Last Active: Oct 19, 2016 | Replies (18)Comment receiving replies
Hi Margaret ..... No, I'm in good health ... had a knee replacement 2 years ago which is fine, and I'm in the process of getting dentures; otherwise, I'm fine. I loved where I lived before in MD ..... my own condo, friends, a church I loved, and I'd lived in that county for 35 years, so I knew it like the back of my hand. It was "home" ..... I've left all that behind. I'm trying to find new doctors and I have found a few, but I still go up to MD to see my therapist and my Psychiatrist - cyclothymia. I've been working with them for 15 years and I'm not about to change that. I go every other week, and drive home the same day. It's a tiring drive, but it's worth it. I wish my kids understood a little more, or tried to understand, how difficult it is to move when you're older and have just been through one loss after another ..... my father died from Alzheimer's, my husband of 40 years and I got divorced, and now I'm plunked in a new place which I neither like nor feel I fit into. And, on top of that, my X lives down this way .... he's about 45 min. from me, but for this area, people don't feel that's very far away. Just another chink in the puzzle. My girls are delighted I'm here, and have been so sweet to me, but what about me? Whose life is it anyhow? It took 4-5 years for me to finally decide to make the move ..... I think I made the wrong choice.
Abby
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As you know moving is extremely traumatic, so first take very good care of<br>yourself (food, exercise, sleep) before you try to move forward from your<br>past. It seems you need an internal spark of passion or some inspiration in<br>your life and you probably need to consciously be more open for discovery<br>because this is the time you can try out new things to figure out what<br>moves you. There may be different events or classes you can try (in VA<br>public college is free for senior residents) or you could try volunteering.<br>It can be very fulfilling to help others and it helps get you out of your<br>own head as do hobbies like painting or yoga... when you can concentrate on<br>something it clears your mind from the unpleasant fretting you seem to be<br>experiencing and eventually find contentment. If you can take on the<br>responsibility of owning a pet, adopting an animal (or two) from a<br>shelter can bring much (unconditional) love into your life which could<br>satisfy the emptiness you seem to be experiencing. Even people who don't<br>particularly care that much about animals can be transformed into doting<br>obsessive pet lovers when they adopt (or you could try fostering a shelter<br>pet first ). Hope you adjust to your new life with purposeful openness so<br>you can search out and develop a social life near you without having to<br>rely on your children for any emotional support. Best of luck, Pale<br>