Yes--I really agree. I'm all for self-care that can help with anxiety and sadness. But I haven't found a way to be upbeat all the time. And I don't want to be! Often "negative" emotions are an authentic response, realistic, or just honest. I don't think that trying to force myself to be upbeat helps me at all. I do wonder where this pressure comes from--but I feel it in every encounter with breast cancer treatment and culture.