How do you deal with aging?

Posted by prcrowe @prcrowe, Jan 1 10:04pm

How do you emotionally handle aging and knowing that you only have a limited number of years left in your life? I'm turning 80 years old in 5 months, am in quite good health, work fulltime, and am incredibly grateful for the life I have. But, I find myself obsessed with the thought that I only have "x" amount of years left in my life. I've never figured out how to live one day at a time. Any suggestions from those of you around my age or older would be SO appreciated! (I'm "kind of" spiritual, but not really religious so that's not something that seems to help with my fear.)

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@poppy67

Scott, how do you join to Silver Sneakers. Sound’s interesting!

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In my case, membership is a benefit of my Medicare Advantage plan.
I believe most people come to it that way. I'm not really sure there are individual memberships.

I hope you can become a member. They do an excellent job of providing an environment (in-person or online) that is safe, friendly, and healthy, regardless of one's ability.

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United Healthcare has ended their relationship with Silver Sneakers, apparently because the participation rate was very low. They now offer a program called Renew Active, which is very similar and offers both gyms and online classes.
< https://uhcrenewactive.com/home&gt;

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@bwitched52

Any suggestions on how to get to 80?? I'm 52 had a heart attack 3 stents put in at 49 stress and I smoked but everyday since that day I've had non stop chest pain and I'm 52 and think I probably have 5 yrs left maybe less..I have a 15 yr old son I need to stay for ..so just wondering what your lifestyle is like u sound like u r doing better then me so I think you probably r going to live many many more yrs..my neighbor is 82 and he mows his lawn huge btw lawn and he's constantly keeping busy his secret...I wish u many many more yrs n health. Be well..

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I am 82. Live one day at a time and do your best. And enjoy your life. Sounds Pollyanna but only way I know.

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Keep moving or things start to seize up. Do tai chi for balance!

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@sueinmn

This week we ...
Had dinner with my sister and brother-in-law to celebrate his retirement...
connected with friends of over 40 year's duration for a seven hour celebration of friendship - chats, dinner, more talk, and plans for later this summer...
Hosted a grandkids plus day with their second cousins... playtime, cookout ant general hilarity...
Grouped our doctors' and other appointments and went together, making optional stops along the way...
Planned a week-long camping trip with our young grands, planning needs and wants...
Spent the afternoon making a needed repair to the backyard pond, involving much mud, belly crawling, and luck...

Life is never boring if you refuse to sit back and watch!

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It all sounds good if you live close to family and friends!….however, not the same when family and friends are far away; making new friends is a bit more challenging.

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@ubelinda

It all sounds good if you live close to family and friends!….however, not the same when family and friends are far away; making new friends is a bit more challenging.

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My Mom demonstrated to me that making new friends is a lifelong process. We spend half our year far from home, and find we need to be deliberate about connecting with new people.

One way that works for us is welcoming other newcomers, whether in our small community, our church or other places we frequent. Some click, some don't.

But it's the same in a lifelong community or a big family. We have been in our neighborhood for forty years, and are cordial with everyone, but only friends with a few. We have dozens of adult nieces and nephews, but enjoy our time with a handful of them far more than the others.

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@sueinmn

My Mom demonstrated to me that making new friends is a lifelong process. We spend half our year far from home, and find we need to be deliberate about connecting with new people.

One way that works for us is welcoming other newcomers, whether in our small community, our church or other places we frequent. Some click, some don't.

But it's the same in a lifelong community or a big family. We have been in our neighborhood for forty years, and are cordial with everyone, but only friends with a few. We have dozens of adult nieces and nephews, but enjoy our time with a handful of them far more than the others.

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Got it. Thank you.

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Dealing with aging and the awareness of limited time can be challenging, but focusing on the present and embracing gratitude for your current life can be very helpful. To manage these feelings, try to shift your focus from the quantity of time left to the quality of experiences you can create each day. Engage in activities that bring you joy, foster relationships, and pursue new interests or hobbies. Mindfulness techniques, such as meditation or deep breathing, can also help you stay grounded in the present moment. Remember, living each day fully and appreciating what you have can often bring more peace than dwelling on the future.

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@alexanderbrown219

Dealing with aging and the awareness of limited time can be challenging, but focusing on the present and embracing gratitude for your current life can be very helpful. To manage these feelings, try to shift your focus from the quantity of time left to the quality of experiences you can create each day. Engage in activities that bring you joy, foster relationships, and pursue new interests or hobbies. Mindfulness techniques, such as meditation or deep breathing, can also help you stay grounded in the present moment. Remember, living each day fully and appreciating what you have can often bring more peace than dwelling on the future.

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Thank you so much. I feel like this is what I am striving to do right now this helped to reaffirm this.

I am experiencing so much happiness at this point in life taking the time to appreciate the past and the present.

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@dannoci

Live for today but plan for tomorrow.
ty dan

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Yes you all are helping me to get my mind on track for this decade.

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