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@clayton48

Thank you for all of your advice and input. I, too, am the sole caregiver and I am forced to make all decisions relative to his life and mine. I'm a strong person and I have worked in the legal field for 30 years. However, there are times I don't want to be strong, I don't want to be the decision maker and I want to be taken care of. I know that is unrealistic but you lose yourself when you are the caretaker. I have always been the dominant spouse, Clayton is sweet, kind and caring, my heart breaks to watch him struggle and become angry. We have been blessed that he has continued to have good cognition for three plus years and he can take are of himself while I work. I am 61 he is 69, I have to work another three years. The driving has been my biggest hurdle and I also believe it is one of those "milestones" that you have to deal with that he really does have ALZ. I don't want him to have it, I want my husband back! I pray daily that God gives me grace and wisdom so I can manage the worsening symptoms in him and the anger I have for slowing losing my sweet, loving husband. I continue to pray for a cure, I know it won't come in Clayton's life time but I pray that our children and your, will not have to be faced with this terrible disease.

Merry Christmas and many prayers to all.

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I am right there with you in every aspect of this post - hating to lose my sweet husband by degrees, missing his old self, missing being a partner, rather than a caretaker, hating the disease, praying for a cure. Only, I HAD to stop working five years ahead of time, due to a surgery that left him much worse, and unable to be left alone - now having to pay for individual insurance, no longer paying into pension, etc...oh well, you gotta do what you gotta do, and pray - if you can still believe - for things to work out o.k.

Thoughts and prayers,

Macbeth