My Bone Marrow Transplant (BMT/SCT) story: Will you share yours?

Posted by Lori, Volunteer Mentor @loribmt, Feb 14, 2021

The past two years have been a storied journey of facing Acute Myeloid Leukemia and a subsequent bone marrow transplant. Being in a high risk category for relapse for AML, a transplant was necessary. Simply put, it would provide a completely new immune system to fend off any remaining AML cells lurking about in my body, after my original factory installed version had become defective in recognizing them. My husband and I shared a collective sigh of relief with the news that my latest bone marrow biopsy, at 19 months post transplant, showed no AML or the mutation which caused it. My new immune system is working!
While celebrating the results with my husband and a pizza, it occurred to me how far I’ve come and how life has changed in the past two years since the onset of AML and the transplant. There have been some challenging transitions but none insurmountable. Of course, life as a genetically modified organism, with two sets of DNA and a new blood type, can have its turf wars with a few GvHD issues, adaptations to medications and such. But I’m incredibly happy to have a second chance with this generous gift of life from an anonymous donor, and through the medical expertise of my amazing BMT-team at Mayo-Rochester. Hopefully I can meet my donor someday to thank him in person. I did send him a card right after the transplant giving him my “undying” gratitude!
We’ve all been given a gift of life. I’d love to hear your story. Lori

What diagnosis brought you to a BMT?

How has it impacted your life and that of your caregiver?

Interested in more discussions like this? Go to the Bone Marrow Transplant (BMT) & CAR-T Cell Therapy Support Group.

@loribmt

Now that your husband’s in Station 94, he’s in the most excellent hands! His care team there will be consistent though, you may see some different on floor doctors daily. However, they are all briefed each day as a team so they are fully aware of each patient on that floor. Hopefully all your pre-transplant jitters and scheduling ‘mis-haps’ or whatever they were are all in the past and it’s smooth sailing from here on out!

I smiled with your line “ we’ve been through a lot in life but this takes the cake.”. Ain’t that the truth!! My husband and I too…we’d been married 45 years at the time I received my transplant after the previous months of chemo. Wow, talk about a life adventure. Now we feel like we can manage anything after that!

I’ll be thinking of you both as you go through this week! The first couple of days most likely won’t change much for your husband with the pre-transplant chemo. But by day -3 or -2 he may start feeling a little more loagy…fatigued and feeling ‘off’…that’s the best way I could describe it.

Anyway, we all react differently. So as long has he’s feeling like eating and drinking, have him work on keeping up his nutrition. I think the kitchen closes at 6PM so it’s ok to order extra foods. I had meds to take in the middle of the night so I’d frequently order extra banana bread so that I had something to nibble on at midnight. Also, my husband would bring lunch or dinner that he made for me. There’s a refrigerator in the Family room off 9-4 where people can put foods if they need to. We didn’t really keep anything there because we lived less than 2 blocks from the clinic so Rick would just bring a lunch bag for me.
There’s also the snack room for transplant patients. You can make toast, there are premade sandwiches, protein powders, pudding, popsicles, etc., available 24/7.

Dorothy, are you spending most of your day in the hospital or getting out and walking around…keeping busy?

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Lori the first three days were half hour infusions so I just stayed with him. He lets me help with his NY Times puzzles.
Yesterday was longer about four hours so I went out briefly to walk and get warm (the AC gets to me after sitting still for awhile). I don’t like to leave it makes me uneasy. Although the team is great. We have had two primary nurses but a different “practitioner” (PA or NP) every day. All seem very intelligent and competent and friendly. David is lovely with all the staff. I get a bit anxious because his condition is so complex how can they be aware of all the things? So I ask a lot of questions. The responses have all been helpful.
Transplant day Thursday. Keep us in the light.

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@dwolden

Lori the first three days were half hour infusions so I just stayed with him. He lets me help with his NY Times puzzles.
Yesterday was longer about four hours so I went out briefly to walk and get warm (the AC gets to me after sitting still for awhile). I don’t like to leave it makes me uneasy. Although the team is great. We have had two primary nurses but a different “practitioner” (PA or NP) every day. All seem very intelligent and competent and friendly. David is lovely with all the staff. I get a bit anxious because his condition is so complex how can they be aware of all the things? So I ask a lot of questions. The responses have all been helpful.
Transplant day Thursday. Keep us in the light.

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Hi Dorothy! Two more days to go until the big day, huh? I know I’ve mentioned it before…all this hoopla leading up to the transplant itself and then when the moment comes, it’s basically another 20 minute infusion! Very anticlimactic! But what a gift in that little bag of cells…a 2nd chance at life!

There will be two nurses in the room at that point. They will give David some pre-transplant meds and then check and verify that all the numbers on his wrist band and the infusion bag of cells match. They’ll be with him for about an hour or so? At least that’s how it was when I received my cells. Then I promptly dozed off! LOL My husband and daughter had gone back to the hotel and missed the big moment because my cells got delayed with the flight. So the cells arrived later in the evening and my re-birth moment was at 11:30 at night.

If David is lovely with the staff, he’ll be a favorite patient! I’m sure all the patients are treated the same but I always felt like I got spoiled a bit with extra pudding or whatever because I really was an easy patient. 😅 I heard someone in another room being an absolute pill and upsetting the staff multiple times. I vowed that would never be me. A little niceness goes a long way, especially to people who are trying to save our lives.

It’s not unusual to have different PAs/NPs daily on the floor. They do rotate so you may see them again. And the oncologists take their weekend rotations as well. So you may or may not see Davids Transplant doctor pop in. But believe me, whomever you have, they are all aware of the complexity of his condition. And quite frankly they’ve seen it all up on that floor! I’ve never met a more competent or completely trustworthy medical staff than at Mayo. Not kidding, I never lost one moment of sleep there worrying about anything. I knew these people had my back. I’m happy to hear nothing has changed and they’re still attentive and take time to answer questions.

I’ll for sure be thinking of you and David! I’m here anytime if you need a shoulder or an ear. Hugs!

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I have multiple myeloma. An incurable cancer. My oncologist used the Mayo protocol for treating my cancer until my body had rejected every chemo drug available. I had instinctively know that my life was …ending, but my husband was in total disbelief when my oncologist made the announcement that there was no more he could do. Even though I had been a patient since my cancer was in the infancy stages, stem cell/bone marrow transplants were never an option. My oncologist had always told me that if I wanted to be referred to another doctor just say the word. I pulled that card out and made my request. I was ultimately referred to Northwestern University Hospital in downtown Chicago and specifically to a Dr Mehta. I was surprised to be able to get an appointment in about two weeks from my request. It was during my initial visit that I was told not only was I a candidate for a transplant, but he intended to use my stem cells! When I returned the next month my procedure was scheduled. I had my first transplant just prior to Thanksgiving 2014. I breezed through it and within two weeks I returned home. I was incredibly weak, but gave thanks for a chance to continue living. The doctor was encouraging when I saw him next, but by January he dropped a bomb: I needed to have another transplant ASAP in order to kill the remaining cancer cells. I was devastated and knew my body had not recovered enough from the initial procedure. It was with great trepidation that I entered the hospital in March of 2015. I truly believed I would never go home again. My transplant, or new birthday, was on St Patrick’s Day. The transplant process itself is not particularly difficult, but your body’s reaction to the high powered chemo given prior can be. These drugs basically killed me as my bone marrow was destroyed and then afterwards I would be given nutrients to rebuild my system. The process is miraculous! I thought I was progressing nicely as I went to sleep on day two or three after the transplant, but then my world turned sideways! When I next woke up I had something threaded down my nose and IV trees surrounded my bed. I didn’t understand what had happened and learned I had been “sleeping” for several days. I was only awake for a few minutes and then slumbered once more. The next time I awakened I discovered that I had no control over my bodily functions . I was entirely too weak to be overly humiliated by this and continued to drift in and out of consciousness for at least a week. I had a wonderful medical team helping me through the next weeks. Yes, I said WEEKS. This hospitalization lasted for two months. My family lived four hours away and my husband was entering his busy season as a farmer, so most of my days passed in solitude. He came once or twice a week for 24-36 hours and then needed to return to our home in West Central Illinois. My progress was painstakingly slow. I had zero strength and moving my body in any way was difficult. It was decided that I would need to go to a special rehab facility once I was released and it took quite some time arranging this. I was finally released to a hospital closer to my home that specialized in the treatment I needed. I had been steadily rehabilitating myself, however. As I lay in bed I flexed my muscles in ways that were strengthening them. I learned to dress myself, sit on the side of the bed, and walk in my room using a walker . I progressed rapidly once in the next program and immediately realized how blessed I was. The other patients in my section of the hospital were suffering from much worse circumstances. I requested to be released after less than a week because I had made enough progress to complete my recovery at home. It was abundantly clear that patients with more serious illnesses needed that bed more than I did. Once home my recovery was slow but steady. Food nauseated me and I ate a steady diet of mashed potatoes and Sierra Mist for at least two months. I had lost over sixty pounds since my transplant but I was far too weak to shop for clothing that fit plus I was restricted from being in public places. I had home health care physical therapy and continued to made steady progress. I did have to resume chemotherapy in order to eradicate the remainder of the cancer in my body but have not had a treatment since January of 2019.
So, here I am! Alive eleven years after my diagnosis with a cancer that typically takes one’s life within five years of diagnosis! Do I continue to bear effects from this treatment? Yes. Of course. I have never been able to regain the strength and stamina I possessed prior to the transplants. I now have to admit that I am in the ELDERLY stage of my life and walk with a walker. But what a BLESSING it is to have been allowed to live at all!
Would I recommend a stem cell transplant to others with this disease? Of course! If your doctor believes you are hearty enough to withstand the process I’d say GO FOR IT!
I am now too old to repeat this process if my cancer resurfaced, but I would definitely go through chemo again.
To those considering a transplant I cannot stress enough that I believe my spiritual connections helped me greatly. I had friends, neighbors, former students and their friends and families, and church prayer chains lifting me in prayer every step of the way.

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@wefarm2

I have multiple myeloma. An incurable cancer. My oncologist used the Mayo protocol for treating my cancer until my body had rejected every chemo drug available. I had instinctively know that my life was …ending, but my husband was in total disbelief when my oncologist made the announcement that there was no more he could do. Even though I had been a patient since my cancer was in the infancy stages, stem cell/bone marrow transplants were never an option. My oncologist had always told me that if I wanted to be referred to another doctor just say the word. I pulled that card out and made my request. I was ultimately referred to Northwestern University Hospital in downtown Chicago and specifically to a Dr Mehta. I was surprised to be able to get an appointment in about two weeks from my request. It was during my initial visit that I was told not only was I a candidate for a transplant, but he intended to use my stem cells! When I returned the next month my procedure was scheduled. I had my first transplant just prior to Thanksgiving 2014. I breezed through it and within two weeks I returned home. I was incredibly weak, but gave thanks for a chance to continue living. The doctor was encouraging when I saw him next, but by January he dropped a bomb: I needed to have another transplant ASAP in order to kill the remaining cancer cells. I was devastated and knew my body had not recovered enough from the initial procedure. It was with great trepidation that I entered the hospital in March of 2015. I truly believed I would never go home again. My transplant, or new birthday, was on St Patrick’s Day. The transplant process itself is not particularly difficult, but your body’s reaction to the high powered chemo given prior can be. These drugs basically killed me as my bone marrow was destroyed and then afterwards I would be given nutrients to rebuild my system. The process is miraculous! I thought I was progressing nicely as I went to sleep on day two or three after the transplant, but then my world turned sideways! When I next woke up I had something threaded down my nose and IV trees surrounded my bed. I didn’t understand what had happened and learned I had been “sleeping” for several days. I was only awake for a few minutes and then slumbered once more. The next time I awakened I discovered that I had no control over my bodily functions . I was entirely too weak to be overly humiliated by this and continued to drift in and out of consciousness for at least a week. I had a wonderful medical team helping me through the next weeks. Yes, I said WEEKS. This hospitalization lasted for two months. My family lived four hours away and my husband was entering his busy season as a farmer, so most of my days passed in solitude. He came once or twice a week for 24-36 hours and then needed to return to our home in West Central Illinois. My progress was painstakingly slow. I had zero strength and moving my body in any way was difficult. It was decided that I would need to go to a special rehab facility once I was released and it took quite some time arranging this. I was finally released to a hospital closer to my home that specialized in the treatment I needed. I had been steadily rehabilitating myself, however. As I lay in bed I flexed my muscles in ways that were strengthening them. I learned to dress myself, sit on the side of the bed, and walk in my room using a walker . I progressed rapidly once in the next program and immediately realized how blessed I was. The other patients in my section of the hospital were suffering from much worse circumstances. I requested to be released after less than a week because I had made enough progress to complete my recovery at home. It was abundantly clear that patients with more serious illnesses needed that bed more than I did. Once home my recovery was slow but steady. Food nauseated me and I ate a steady diet of mashed potatoes and Sierra Mist for at least two months. I had lost over sixty pounds since my transplant but I was far too weak to shop for clothing that fit plus I was restricted from being in public places. I had home health care physical therapy and continued to made steady progress. I did have to resume chemotherapy in order to eradicate the remainder of the cancer in my body but have not had a treatment since January of 2019.
So, here I am! Alive eleven years after my diagnosis with a cancer that typically takes one’s life within five years of diagnosis! Do I continue to bear effects from this treatment? Yes. Of course. I have never been able to regain the strength and stamina I possessed prior to the transplants. I now have to admit that I am in the ELDERLY stage of my life and walk with a walker. But what a BLESSING it is to have been allowed to live at all!
Would I recommend a stem cell transplant to others with this disease? Of course! If your doctor believes you are hearty enough to withstand the process I’d say GO FOR IT!
I am now too old to repeat this process if my cancer resurfaced, but I would definitely go through chemo again.
To those considering a transplant I cannot stress enough that I believe my spiritual connections helped me greatly. I had friends, neighbors, former students and their friends and families, and church prayer chains lifting me in prayer every step of the way.

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Welcome to Connect, @wefarm2. Thank you for sharing your challenging story about your two transplants. Multiple myeloma can be difficult to treat. Some patients to well with the stem cell transplant using their own cells. But as you found, there can be a reappearance of the cancerous cells and sometimes a subsequent stem cell transplant. I’m sorry you had such a rough go of things…on multiple levels. Those memories weigh heavily on the mind!

Was your second transplant with using donor cells or were they your own again?

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Wow refarm2. You reminded me that modesty is slowly removed from the fear category and move into acceptance. Your story had an abundance of results most of us would say "no way" would i walk through that. Cancer treatment is not for those who cannot hear the whisper from all saying you can do it. You heard that whisper and Baaaam!!!! Thank you for posting your experience. Hope. I heard and abundance of Hope.

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@katgob

Wow refarm2. You reminded me that modesty is slowly removed from the fear category and move into acceptance. Your story had an abundance of results most of us would say "no way" would i walk through that. Cancer treatment is not for those who cannot hear the whisper from all saying you can do it. You heard that whisper and Baaaam!!!! Thank you for posting your experience. Hope. I heard and abundance of Hope.

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As I mentioned, I had the prayers and well wishes of many. I am truly blessed. My spirituality grew through the time I received treatment for cancer. I was already a strong person, but emerged even stronger.

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@dwolden

Lori the first three days were half hour infusions so I just stayed with him. He lets me help with his NY Times puzzles.
Yesterday was longer about four hours so I went out briefly to walk and get warm (the AC gets to me after sitting still for awhile). I don’t like to leave it makes me uneasy. Although the team is great. We have had two primary nurses but a different “practitioner” (PA or NP) every day. All seem very intelligent and competent and friendly. David is lovely with all the staff. I get a bit anxious because his condition is so complex how can they be aware of all the things? So I ask a lot of questions. The responses have all been helpful.
Transplant day Thursday. Keep us in the light.

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Good morning! Ooo today’s the big day…that proverbial first day of the rest of David’s second chance at life! Ok, I modified the phrase to make it work. ☺️
I’ll be thinking of you both today. I know this day has been a long time coming and now it’s here. I hope you’ll be less nervous once this day is past.

What a lovely photo of you and your husband! I love putting faces with the people I speak with so often!
At some point, it would be fun if you and your husband put a new photo in this discussion I started a few years ago of moments captured with a photo that wouldn’t exist if not for the gift of transplant.

Snapshots of Hope: Life on the other side of transplant!
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/snapshots-of-hope-life-on-the-other-side-of-transplant/
Sending an air-hug and positive vibes for a successful, uneventful day. ☺️

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@wefarm2

I have multiple myeloma. An incurable cancer. My oncologist used the Mayo protocol for treating my cancer until my body had rejected every chemo drug available. I had instinctively know that my life was …ending, but my husband was in total disbelief when my oncologist made the announcement that there was no more he could do. Even though I had been a patient since my cancer was in the infancy stages, stem cell/bone marrow transplants were never an option. My oncologist had always told me that if I wanted to be referred to another doctor just say the word. I pulled that card out and made my request. I was ultimately referred to Northwestern University Hospital in downtown Chicago and specifically to a Dr Mehta. I was surprised to be able to get an appointment in about two weeks from my request. It was during my initial visit that I was told not only was I a candidate for a transplant, but he intended to use my stem cells! When I returned the next month my procedure was scheduled. I had my first transplant just prior to Thanksgiving 2014. I breezed through it and within two weeks I returned home. I was incredibly weak, but gave thanks for a chance to continue living. The doctor was encouraging when I saw him next, but by January he dropped a bomb: I needed to have another transplant ASAP in order to kill the remaining cancer cells. I was devastated and knew my body had not recovered enough from the initial procedure. It was with great trepidation that I entered the hospital in March of 2015. I truly believed I would never go home again. My transplant, or new birthday, was on St Patrick’s Day. The transplant process itself is not particularly difficult, but your body’s reaction to the high powered chemo given prior can be. These drugs basically killed me as my bone marrow was destroyed and then afterwards I would be given nutrients to rebuild my system. The process is miraculous! I thought I was progressing nicely as I went to sleep on day two or three after the transplant, but then my world turned sideways! When I next woke up I had something threaded down my nose and IV trees surrounded my bed. I didn’t understand what had happened and learned I had been “sleeping” for several days. I was only awake for a few minutes and then slumbered once more. The next time I awakened I discovered that I had no control over my bodily functions . I was entirely too weak to be overly humiliated by this and continued to drift in and out of consciousness for at least a week. I had a wonderful medical team helping me through the next weeks. Yes, I said WEEKS. This hospitalization lasted for two months. My family lived four hours away and my husband was entering his busy season as a farmer, so most of my days passed in solitude. He came once or twice a week for 24-36 hours and then needed to return to our home in West Central Illinois. My progress was painstakingly slow. I had zero strength and moving my body in any way was difficult. It was decided that I would need to go to a special rehab facility once I was released and it took quite some time arranging this. I was finally released to a hospital closer to my home that specialized in the treatment I needed. I had been steadily rehabilitating myself, however. As I lay in bed I flexed my muscles in ways that were strengthening them. I learned to dress myself, sit on the side of the bed, and walk in my room using a walker . I progressed rapidly once in the next program and immediately realized how blessed I was. The other patients in my section of the hospital were suffering from much worse circumstances. I requested to be released after less than a week because I had made enough progress to complete my recovery at home. It was abundantly clear that patients with more serious illnesses needed that bed more than I did. Once home my recovery was slow but steady. Food nauseated me and I ate a steady diet of mashed potatoes and Sierra Mist for at least two months. I had lost over sixty pounds since my transplant but I was far too weak to shop for clothing that fit plus I was restricted from being in public places. I had home health care physical therapy and continued to made steady progress. I did have to resume chemotherapy in order to eradicate the remainder of the cancer in my body but have not had a treatment since January of 2019.
So, here I am! Alive eleven years after my diagnosis with a cancer that typically takes one’s life within five years of diagnosis! Do I continue to bear effects from this treatment? Yes. Of course. I have never been able to regain the strength and stamina I possessed prior to the transplants. I now have to admit that I am in the ELDERLY stage of my life and walk with a walker. But what a BLESSING it is to have been allowed to live at all!
Would I recommend a stem cell transplant to others with this disease? Of course! If your doctor believes you are hearty enough to withstand the process I’d say GO FOR IT!
I am now too old to repeat this process if my cancer resurfaced, but I would definitely go through chemo again.
To those considering a transplant I cannot stress enough that I believe my spiritual connections helped me greatly. I had friends, neighbors, former students and their friends and families, and church prayer chains lifting me in prayer every step of the way.

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What a saga you gave weathered! I am very moved by your story. Thank you so much for sharing it here. You remind me so vividly of the fierce attachment and love of life that can endure so much. You are indomitable. I salute you.

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@loribmt

Good morning! Ooo today’s the big day…that proverbial first day of the rest of David’s second chance at life! Ok, I modified the phrase to make it work. ☺️
I’ll be thinking of you both today. I know this day has been a long time coming and now it’s here. I hope you’ll be less nervous once this day is past.

What a lovely photo of you and your husband! I love putting faces with the people I speak with so often!
At some point, it would be fun if you and your husband put a new photo in this discussion I started a few years ago of moments captured with a photo that wouldn’t exist if not for the gift of transplant.

Snapshots of Hope: Life on the other side of transplant!
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/snapshots-of-hope-life-on-the-other-side-of-transplant/
Sending an air-hug and positive vibes for a successful, uneventful day. ☺️

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Lori and all,
We are glad to be in positive numbers today is day 2. As you know transplant day turned into much more of an event than we had hoped. David became terribly nauseated during the transfusion and also had rigors. His nurses were calm and reassuring throughout and they got all the cells in. His symptoms went away after two doses of anti nausea meds and we were sent home.
He slept for 12 hours afterwards but is feeling good. We are concentrating on getting food and fluids and light exertion. Daily visit to station 94 was blissfully uneventful yesterday. We will be back today, then tomorrow be admitted for two days while he receives an intense treatment to help head off GVHD.
Trusting in the science and holding each other close with many friends and family holding us up from afar.

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@dwolden

What a saga you gave weathered! I am very moved by your story. Thank you so much for sharing it here. You remind me so vividly of the fierce attachment and love of life that can endure so much. You are indomitable. I salute you.

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Thank you for your kind words. My primary doc has commented on my determination to carry on. I AM DETERMINED. I’m determined to weather whatever storm strikes. I believe that this determination not to give up was instrumental in the way I responded mentally and then physically to the cancer treatments. Was I frightened? Of course. But I knew I had hundreds of people raising me up in prayer and that gave me the strength to carry on. I am very much aware that I am one of the lucky ones. So far I have survived from a bout with a killer cancer. I am abundantly grateful to my Heavenly Father and to the physicians that treated me along this journey.

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