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I feel I don’t really have a sense of worth anymore. No one really needs me. When one feels not needed and forgotten, loneliness and sadness seems to follow. My kids have their own lives now and I don’t see them much. Friends are more like acquaintances these days, as I only really see them in work or business settings. I get up everyday to go to work and pay my bills, but there is not much joy in my life anymore. At 53 years old I know the best days are gone. I really try my best to not feel down, but it’s a losing battle most times. I know there’s a lot of people that feel this way. I would love to hear how others deal with it.
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When I was working, I got most of my sense of worth from my job, once i retired I felt like you did.
I volunteer every week and always feel like I make a difference at end of shift. If not able to make a commitment to ongoing volunteering, look for one time events that are looking for for volunteers, Example, helping at water station at a marathon. You might meet new people and gets you out of the house.
Do you have time in your schedule to do some volunteer work? Even one night a week or weekends?
Know this. The fact you are getting a response from all of us out here in the virtual world means you matter!!! Obviously, there’s so much that could be the reason for felling this irrational feeling. You are an in explicable miracle! Fifty-three ain’t nothing sweetheart! I’m sixty-four and dying of cancer. I have a good cry sometime, but I’m still place my favorite music loud, dance alone, yell out and the ironies, and absurdities of life, and laugh at the ridiculousness of this wonderful existence! Yiu have family, you have your work, and options! Go out die and cut your hair blonde, buy some funky clothes and plan a trip to Copenhagen — there you will see how the world embraces you! If you can’t afford to do anything that excites you —then you are not in need of company, you need to” make life happen”! You are so lucky and you won’t allow yourself to appreciate your miraculous existence. And, shame on your family for not embraces big young fifty-three year old self! No one is guaranteed happiness, but you can start by making an inventory of how good you have it an do something about it. If you aren’t stirred by my advice to let be life with passion, then you need professional help. But, I believe in you. Stop the stinking thinking. You must first love yourself and other will be drawn to you. Now go out and live. Carpe diem!
I read your comment with interest. I have many of the same feelings as you do. There is one great difference, though. I will be 90 years old next month. I lost my much loved husband 3 years ago and still grieving. At 53 I felt the whole world was my oyster. It is concerning that you feel this way at such a young age. I urge you to seek counselling.
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