@kathymcl and @talie, I encourage you both to follow and post in the new group dedicated to caregivers caring for someone living with dementia. Here's the link:
- Caregivers: Dementia https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/caregivers-dementia/

Kathy, some of the situations with long-term care and the various definitions of care homes that you are describing my aunt in Canada (Ontario) also experienced. It is such a maze to figure out. Have you contacted the Alzheimer's Society of Canada? https://alzheimer.ca/en/Home
They were so helpful with my aunt.