Hello @ltw Nice to have you here on Mayo Connect! I am sorry to read about your husband's diagnosis.

I'm not a lawyer, but I know legal issues can vary by state, etc. so I would recommend you consult an attorney to get her/his advice on how to put together a plan for this instance. I know that is what my wife and I did. It was a huge help because these things can be or get very complicated very quickly.

How long have you been caregiving?

Strength, courage, and peace

@ltw. Hello and welcome to Connect. We’re glad you found us! This is such difficult planning for you to do, but so smart at the same time. Can you give me a little more information, like how is his health overall, is the diagnosis of dementia new? Are you concerned about you own health and being able to help him? Please get back to me, I care

Hi @ltw - I'm glad you found Connect. Welcome to this group... My husband has dementia, too, and I know there are so many aspects of it that can be confusing and just feel totally daunting. I can tell you what I did - I went to a local attorney that specialized in elder care to get advice on what I should do. We had had our wills, POA's, health care proxies, etc. done in 2010. She told me that the law had changed a couple of years after that and I needed to get his documents updated so that I would have all of the authority I needed should something happen to him. Then, she walked me through what we needed to do to protect assets if the time came that he needed residential care. Finally, she worked with me on plans for what would happen to him if I weren't here. I think its important that you have all of those angles covered. And, I agree with @IndianaScott Scott that the laws vary so much by state, you would need to find someone local. Was your husband's diagnosis recent?