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Caregivers | Last Active: Nov 12, 2023 | Replies (707)

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@IndianaScott

Hello and good morning @pattyinal I am sorry to read of your husband's challenges with MCI, but am glad you have joined in the conversations here at Mayo Connect.

Caregiving is one of the most challenging jobs in the whole world I think! You are right that it often takes us to our limits physically, mentally, and emotionally. Plus there is an unfortunately unique challenge of having to rise to the occasion each day while watching our loved one fight their battle yet another day. One of the things I always reminded myself of was 'Superman and Wonder Woman only exist in the comics. There are no superheroes in caregiving.' Each of us can only do what it is we can do on any given day.

It is nice to read that your husband continues to enjoy social interactions, otherwise caregiving can certainly be incredibly isolating.

How long have you been caregiving?

Wishing you continued strength, courage, and peace!

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We first noticed mild memory loss, missing appointments, meetings etc.? in 2006. At that time he was also diagnosed with severe sleep apnea. He took early retirement in 2007. Neurologist agreed with us that years of oxygen deprivation could possibly have been the initial source of his dementia issues. Since that time, he uses a CPAP every day, but the cognitive decline has continued gradually, until the last couple of years when the memory loss has become more severe. Now, he cannot tell time, cannot do any of the handyman jobs he used to do, struggles to find the word for objects, cannot remember that he already ate, or has not had a bath or brushed his teeth. He does still dress himself, but would wear the same clothes every day, if I didn’t remove them from his closet. He knows that he cannot remember, and usually asks me for answers, but then is often sure I’m mistaken. He knows he is dependent on me, yet is very protective of me and hardly wants me out of his sight. Probably more than you wanted to know, but so far, we make a pretty good team and I certainly know that our difficulties don’t even compare to those of so many others.