Bless your heart @patti1952, I can only imagine your stress. I was a caregiver to my husband for over 12 years with Multiple Myeloma and experienced so many ups and downs in the journey. Please know that you have friends on this site that understand your problems and send good wishes for an answer to your immediate problems.

Welcome, Patti. It's tough to have to stop treatment. My father had to stop chemo for colorectal cancer because it was making him so ill. He chose quality over quantity. We were all comfortable with that choice.

You said your partner has "bouts of lack of oxygen". Do you know what the cause is and what symptom relief has been suggested for him?

Hello @patti1952 Nice to e-meet you here on Connect. I am Scott and I was my wife's caregiver for 14+ years. During those years we encountered the issues of having to choose one treatment over another, forego certain treatments, as well as times when she needed oxygen. I took to wearing the pulsox gizmo around my neck so I could slip it on her finger at any time. My wife did not like the times she had to use oxygen and actually fought mightily against using the mask. Frequently she also did not even like the nasal tubes. What I often did, although I am not sure it would work with anyone else, was to let her fall asleep without the oxygen, leave it attached to the bedrail, and then gently place it in her nose once she fell asleep. The times she needed oxygen ranged from just the portion of one day to weeks. We never could identify a pattern or cause as it came and went!

Strength, courage, and peace!