Heidi, you're such a good daughter to give back to your mom. I was a caregiver for my dad his last few years. My mom helped him some and he lived at home with her, but she wasn't such a great companion at giving of herself and , frankly, she got on his nerves. I'm writing to you because my dad was practically blind and also had copd. I promise you, it is hard, but rewarding. I had so much fun with my dad as he got older and I loved him and respected him. He was an Iwo Jima Marine. I'm assuming you live with your mom? If so, then I know you have to wear lots of hats and maybe you don't get much outside help. You have to take care of yourself. If you're not getting a break and coming up for air, it gets to be overwhelming. And don't try to be a perfectionist. You don't have to. Just take one day at a time. Do the best you can and know that's a good way to live. And when the day comes and hour job is done, you'll not feel guilty, knowing you did the best you could. I say this all to you, because after my dad died 4 years ago, 2 years. Later, my husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. Here I am being a caregiver all over again. We are Christian and decided from day one to live 1 day at time, do our best and not let it get us down. He's doing well, but I know it'll change and be very hard. But I have to be at my best and try to be uplifted. So, take care of your friends, ask for help and know you've been given a difficult job, but s rewarding one. God bless.. write me any time. Christy

shortshot80 (Nancy) Heidi, What ever County in( I'm sure.). every state. You can call them and perhaps someone can step in, once or twiice a week, or perhaps couple hours a day. Especially if you are living with your mom..or she with you.My husband of 66 year needs someone to help, fortunately our oldest son has moved in with us. Another son steps in to take the oldest couple times a month. We also have a County nurse who comes once a month to help my husband and his medical items. I am still able to cook some, but I have been diagnosis with two types of lung cancer. One side I've started radiation on today. Have four more sessions over the next two weeks. Heidi make some calls, there are resources out there. Nancy