@val97 there is much that our “non cancer” friends can never understand. My friends assumed that the minute I was done with chemo, I was all good and ready to be the energizer bunny again. The truth is, I was struggling with being unable to be that for myself. I was very used to working 16 hours a day and still doing things after with hubby or friends or both. After treatments it took me a year to feel like I had enough strength to work 10 hours a day and then go home and die.
I was still mourning my former expectations of my life, the expectations of the new horse property we had planned to buy, and the years of health from 35 to 65 that I planned to work and build the business that I had loved every minute pre diagnosis but no longer had the heart for.
Now you are moving and struggling with the energy for that and dealing with the emotions (good or bad) still requires much energy.
You have been through a lot and you should try and give yourself some grace.
Get through this the best that you can and then if your friends want to have a get together, let them plan it.
I have learned to be grateful for the life I have, but it doesn’t mean I don’t think about the life I lost.
Has any of the advice given by this remarkable group of ladies seemed helpful to you?