Has anyone dealt with REM Behavior Disorder (RBD )

How did you cope? I am having a very hard time with my anger at him hitting, kicking, and trying to strangle me in his sleep. I took it personally. Add to that his memory problems. It is too much to bear!

What is MCI? What are CBT classes? My husband has REM behavior disorder and his memory is the pits. It is a lot to bear. I can't seem to get over the anger of being hit, kicked and strangled. I took it personally. Help! I hope you are OK. How did your wife cope?

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I’m sorry but I don’t remember what you are referring to “did I suffer with hurt or anger”.
I am the one who has REM.
If you refresh my memory I’ll be happy to answer you.
Thank you.

Oh, I didn't realize that you were the one with RBD. Did you strike out at your partner in your sleep? How did they react? Were they angry? How did they get over the hurt and anger? I am really suffering and any help you could give me would be greatly appreciated. We're you able to decrease the RBD? I hope you are okay. Thank you.

I was married for 58 years until my husband died with Parkinson's disease. I found out on my honeymoon, much to my shock, that he already had REM sleep disorder at the age of 20. It's a big symptom Parkinson's patients have. We ended up in separate bedrooms.

I have only in the past three years showed signs of REM sleep disorder
Although I have shouted and kicked at nights it is usually a dream where I am
being held down etc
It is all over in minuites
I have never exhibited any violence towards my partner and for this I am grateful
However I am taking Apixaban for DVT and have fallen out of bed and hit my head on various occasions often requiring a brain scan
and visit to Emergency Dept
My consultant started me on Melatonin I now take 6 mgs nightly and my dreaming has generally become less vivid although I am told I chatter throughout the night
No falls for months now thankfully
I am also on
Venlafaxine for over 20 yrs so asked my doctor to allow me to come off I am
Now on a well controlled decreasing programme recommended by the Maudsley Hosp
I show no sign of Parkinson my doctor says but realise this is inevitable with Rem disorder
I am just thankful I do not have the tendency to attack anyone
Deeply distressing for all concerned I hope some solution is found
Best wishes

I’m not sure who is talking to who 🤣
But I’ll answer your question. My husband wasn’t angry or hurt because he realized that I didn’t know what I was doing.
I never really hurt him.
The Doctor who did my sleep study has started me on Pregabalin for acute Periodic Limb Movement which has helped me stay asleep, but I believe it is making me more tired during the daytime and I already have Excessive Daytime Sleepiness anyway and take medicine for that, it seems like a never ending cycle. I see my Neurologist tomorrow, I’ll see what he has to say about it all !

Thank you. My name is Sharon. We'll that is good that your partner understood. I woke up being strangled once or twice. Kicked. Big leg bruises. Hit. So I interpreted it as hidden aggression towards me. Cos u don't do in sleep what u wouldn't do awake. I hope you are able to get your excessive daytime sleepiness under control. Thank u for the drug advise. Good luck. Sharon

I can understand your being hurt, a man has a lot more strength than a woman—usually.
Maybe if you accompanied your partner to his Doctor appointment they could explain why these actions happen.
I fell out of bed and hurt myself, I certainly wouldn’t do that while awake. It’s not due to repressed aggression toward anyone. When it happens with me it’s because in my dream, I am being attacked by someone and i am responding to that.
You can also do research online, there’s quite a bit of info about REM Behavior Disorder,
I hope things will be better for you, thank you for your well wishes.