We can simplify this entire issue. If your health is greatly impacted, it is certainly going to affect your thinking, moods and emotions.

We don't have to get into the specifics to know that if we have many medical problems, it is a constant emotional strain on us and that leading into worry generally and then worry about passing? That is all extremely normal.

I agree with another post...keep investigating, keep looking into aids to the medical problems. Do all that, absolutely.

And yes, use therapy as an aid.

Everything helps.

Might want to look into relaxation work, stress management and stress reduction. That can only help.

How much will it help? A powerful cure-all? Unlikely. Some help? Very likely.

And under stress reduction will include things like breathing exercises and meditation.

I was a violent crime victim. Kidnapped in 1982 and held for a time. About a year after I escaped, I started to have panic attacks. I was able to control them through breathing exercises. I really don't remember how long it took for that to work. I think it probably started to help after a few months and really did the trick after a year or two.

Meditation has helped as well. It is, for most of us, not an easy discipline. I have a good meditation maybe 1 out of every 20 times I sit down. However, every time I sit down it helps some. And if I am extremely agitated, it almost always helps out.

There are thousands of different forms of meditation. The field is very very very vast. So, not only would the goal to be a meditation practice, but finding the form that is really suited to your particular needs.

You might want to start with something very simple. Like just taking time to listen to some gentle classical music. Mozart is said to be very good for relaxation. A nice walk on the beach or in the mountains is itself a meditation. Takes the mind to a more relaxed place. Even fishing in a quiet place is a meditation. Without doing any techniques. Just relaxing the mind is itself a meditation.

So, you know, might want to start off there. And this is all discussed in the discipline of stress reduction and stress management.

My wife and I like nature relaxation videos. Here's one we like...and the company that makes them, makes a bunch that we like. Many available on You Tube for free. It's made by a young guy, in this 20s, a hiker who just likes nature:

this one is beautiful aerial footage of Scotland (Isle of Skye) with some relaxing music:

Now, this is art, craft, as much as a technique. Like with meditation...sometimes you hit the target, sometimes you don't.

We use "key" words to stimulate an effect. The words, in themselves don't mean much. They are a tool to "get to a place."

Any time you try and describe techniques like this, it immediately sounds like new age nonsense.

But breathing techniques are very very widely used and recognized as having benefit. And by very mainstream sources.

Many professional athletes regularly use breathing techniques.

Anyway...so here it is.

Just sit in a chair, in a quiet room without distractions. Just take five minutes to start and just sit in the chair..do nothing, no techniques, just rest your bones...period. Just take five minutes to let that sit in, that you are now in your "relaxation" time and you don't have to spend it worrying about the bills or whatever else is in your life.

Just relax.

Then, to the breathing.

The phrase is..."when you breathe in, imagine you are breathing in peace." "Imagine that you are not breathing in air, but breathing in peace."

Now those words sound like nonsense. But what we are actually doing is using those words, to train the mind...even the unconscious mind, to just let go of the stress. That is the work. The words don't mean anything, unless they help you establish that connection.

You breathe in. Relax. Imagine that the breath is relaxing you. Exhale. Imagine that all the stress is leaving you when you exhale.

You breathe in and relax...you exhale and let all the stress go with the breath as you exhale.

And that is it. Period.

And just do that for a few minutes. And, I do mean, maybe 3 minutes max.

Other words that people connect to: calm, tranquility, serenity, ease...whatever works for you.

It is a technique. And if you get good at it, it can really attack stress levels. Like I said, I was kidnapped. In the real world, people wanted me dead. Like anyone I had real fears. These goons were never caught by the police.
I had real fears.

But even in that kind of scenario, it is still a choice whether to let your mind dwell on the possibilities and the fears...or to simply divert your mind to something else. Oh, a memory of walking on a beach at sunset. Simple, simple stuff.

Now, the mind can get triggered. The amygdala can capture the mind, and put you in fear or flight. That is that kind of animal "brain." And that does not want to give up control easily. But, it actually can be controlled...to varying degrees.

And it can be as simple as allowing the mind to be absorbed into something peaceful, pleasant, calm.

I would say the analogy is like this. Someone just got mugged. Lost a lot of money and was in fear of their life. You see them 5 minutes after the event. They are in that moment of the fear. Trying telling that person, in that moment, to just give up thinking about the mugging. That is the kind of tug of war between a powerful force pushing you to dwell on fear and worry...and that tiny tiny voice trying to move you somewhere else.

It is a big big big fight.

But, if you enter into the breathing exercise day after day, a few minutes each day...bit by bit, you can learn to calm things down. Like I said, for me...about 3 months to start to feel some relief and a good 1 to 2 years to really get a powerful impact where I could say...I really don't get panic attacks anymore.

And, experiencing what I have an knowing what I know...I absolutely can not say this will work for you. It might.

Again, the idea here is that a lot of people quit before the expertise rises to a level that will make a difference.

take care now...