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Husband diagnosed MCI: He is in denial and personality is changing
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Jul 12 7:09am | Replies (146)Comment receiving replies
You are still young. With many years to live. Are there any other friends or family members who can help out?
Even if you get out of the house for several hours each day that might ease some of the burden of his presence. Sometimes I can’t stand my husband’s behavior toward me. I no that it is not his fault and I try to employ empathy. That helps. But his personality is changed and not only have to deal with his irritability and nastiness I also help him manage his life
The best thing I have done for myself is that now I spend most nights sleeping in my cozy study.
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Hello. Thank you for your kind message. I’ve tried to manage all this for too long and now I just want out. I have a 30 percent of my breast cancer returning- I can’t help that, just like he can’t help what’s happening to him. I resent the inference that the spouses of partners of someone with cognitive impairment- mild or otherwise- are somehow meant to soldier on and be supportive. If you met someone and they were a socialist and then. over the course of your relationship , became a fascist, would you stay with them? No. I reject the notion that the partner must suffer at the expense of the one with MCI. I have a supportive and loving friendship network- that’s where my heart is, not with this person I no longer recognise . I know longer care that this sounds brutal - yet another night alone while he goes to ‘his’ room